My sd did not want to be raised by dh and me.  She schemed and planned with her mom.  Finally her dad let her go.  Consequently she became an addict, had 2 kids, lost them to the system and got incarcerated.  Dh and I enjoyed the drama free life we had and were planning our future.  She just notified us she is pregnant and no one is happy.  We obviusly thought motherhood wasn'tfor  her.  He wants to include her in our life again, he says he hopes she does better this time.  She is 36.  I say no, she was hell and she needs to go do her life.  He can wait until our children have children.