Alright, this is a big question. 

My husband has no rules or guildlines for the girls to follow when they are with us. BM doesn't care what they do as long as they aren't bothering her. Their grades have suffered in school, they both have bad attitudes constantly, are very disrespectful and don't listen. I asked them to do chores and they both literally LAUGHED AT ME and walked away. They said thier mom makes them do all the house work so when they are with me and DH, they feel they don't have to help.