So for some background information, my husband and his BM had a really bad relationship in the past which lead to him being out of their lives and us meeting. We recently dropped our careers and lives in Florida to move to Illinois because she said she was unable to take care of the kids on her own. When we arrived, we found that she lied to us about many things and she was only struggling due to her own laziness. We stayed with her until we had the opportunity to get our own place which we were grateful for.