I am not legally a stepmom but have been with and lived with my boyfriend for over 10 yrs. His son recently came to live with us in june 2018, after his mother called and said come get him I want him out of here now. He was stealing from his mom and grandma and lying and smoking pot, he is 15yrs. old. Same stuff going on here, lying, stealing, smoking pot skipping classes. He does do good things as well he does have straight A's in school.