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Submitted by thornykitty on Fri, 11/13/2009 - 12:51pm

i am convinced the biggest reason us stepparents get bad wraps are because the bio parents WE married generally dump a great deal of the child-rearing on us (especially us stepMOMs). how could we NOT get blamed when crap goes down, or when these "little angels" go off. We are getting the blame because we are trying to slide in and act like what we think a parent should be. then the bio parent gets lazy and hands most of the responsibility to us...anyone hear me on this??

not affectionate enough eh?

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Submitted by thornykitty on Fri, 11/13/2009 - 12:45pm

I never had any kids of my own and come from a non-affectionate family.been with my hubby for 10 years and have been the only "real" mother figure he has had since his mom is a deadbeat. well, now the 14 year old adhd brat has all these clingy issues and is cutting himself and my husband blames me for not being physically affectionate i have always told him i love him, shown it in many other ways and let him call me mom. i have treated him as if he were my own child. but, i am not a hugger and he has always been so clingy it makes me uncomfortable.