Hello, I just joined this community as I am at a crossroads with my marriage.

He was married before to a woman who did not work (or want to) and used thier kids as weapons to control him for $$$. He told me when we got together it wouldn't be forever and that when they turned 18 he would still "help" them, but not fully support them. They live in another country (which makes a whole mess of it's own), but really added to the complexity of the issue.