I've known my stepson since age 4. He's now almost 9. My husbands ex wife is a challenge. I've actually never even met her as she avoids me however I've seen her many of times. SHe's a total B and even on my wedding night texted me that my husband would be thinking of her. They share 50/50 custody. Anyways, my husband an I had a child 2 1/2 years ago and now as my son gets older I have rules in my household and my stepson does not like this. He has zero rules at his moms but here he's asked to clean his room and he's told no as well as sent to his room if he acts up.