This truly is exhausting.....brief back story on the latest drama, HCBM moved 60 miles away over the summer no longer allowing for the shared 50/50 custody agreement to work. She didn't inform DH until 2 days before school began, although we had already found out from SS11. DH tried to communicate with BM earlier in the summer but she literally just ignored all texts. When she did finally inform him and they began negotiating an agreement BM wanted DH to do all the sacrificing, less time, more money, drive further, etc. DH stood his ground. Of course BM didn't like that.

I am usually a pretty positive, happy person, but lately I feel as though I am drowning. 

All of this custody stuff is getting to me, I hate BM, and I hate this system where she can continue to portray herself as a victim and NOBODY sees through it, not the police, not her probation officer, not the mediator, not the courts..... Yesterday I felt so defeated for DH that I started questioning myself, are we missing something, are we the horrible people????

We have this fun weekend planned, camping, hiking, fishing, relaxing kayaking, no talk of SS/BM/or custody stuff, it has consumed our lives for the past month and I needed a break.

Just a quick update....

After literally driving ourselves crazy over the weekend with every what-if scenario we could come up with, looking at the calendar every way possible trying to figure out how 50/50 could reasonably work, and then finally driving to the beach Sunday afternoon because DH knew I needed some "us" time before I lost it, we met with the lawyer yesterday.