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The StepFurred Wife.....Disengagement From Doggo

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Submitted by Healyourslf on Fri, 03/15/2019 - 9:52am

Background - BD24 has been living with BF28 for almost 3 years. Both college grads with a decent life - adulting well for the most part. The relationship brought into it BF's dog and BD's cat.  They live in a costly, but square-foot-challenged one bedroom apt. because it's convenient for work in the city. Doggo was passed around for 4 years as BF tried to figure out his life. Cat has been with BD for 4 years since kittenhood - she's been been responsible for fur child.  Doggo, which is a high-energy, not-your-rocket scientist-breed, is problematic.

Right out of the Twilight Zone!

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Submitted by Healyourslf on Fri, 02/22/2019 - 2:26pm

This is a complete moment from the Twilight Zone and I would appreciate some feedback because it is "off the scale" twisted and weird.

I check my emails while having a cup of coffee in the am and DH does the same as we sit in bed.  This morning I opened an email from an old, mutual friend of BM's and DH's. I have consulted for this individual's business because DH asked me to assist them. My relationship is on an acquaintance level with this person and I have not done any business with this individual for a couple of years (BM sabotaged the business relationship).  

Freudian slip during fight. Is DH feeling regret?

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Submitted by Healyourslf on Mon, 11/12/2018 - 11:26am

When DH's friends and family visit, I pull out the red carpet. DH moved from a 2star existence with BM to 5star living when we committed. We live by the beach and have plenty of extra bedrooms so we often have friends and family visit for days. I work from home and it is double-duty to juggle work with hostessing. DH plays poolside host while I do the hostess hustle. We like sharing our "good life" with others and I think it boosts DH's ego, but it gets under my skin when I feel taken for granted. (The house and its trappings are mine and in trust to BD.

Winter Is Coming....Advice From Step Sages Welcomed

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Submitted by Healyourslf on Tue, 07/31/2018 - 10:18am

There are so many SMs who are struggling to find answers to their SD dilemmas. This torn situation has sucked the energy out of me and at times made me question myself. Blended families are difficult. It's like stone soup...there can be great ingredients, but when you throw in “spoiled” ones and “bitter” ones...the soup might not be worth savoring.

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