We have an appointment with our marriage counsellor on Friday. My bio kids go to their dad's and we are dropping off DD2 at DH's parents house. SD has not come for a couple of months and I don't think she'll be coming this weekend either. I did mention to DH that I could change the appointment if he thought it was a bad time and he said that he wanted to keep it and if SD did come she could go to his parents too. Our appointment is for just 1 hour. I mentioned to DH that I would like to go out to dinner as we won't have any kids with us. He lost it. He said "Do you do these things to upset me?" and "If SD comes I'm not sticking her at my parents for the night!"
OMG, All I wanted was to have dinner and she probably isn't even coming. I don't understand why he is so defensive about her. We wouldn't even be gone for 3 hours including dinner and travel time. Funny how I'm the only one that ever wants to go out and actually do anything. He'd be happy to sit at home and wait for SD to come again. It's getting very tiring. I told him he had two choices.
1) Hire a lawyer and actually do someting about it.
2) Get over it.

I'm sick of living like this. SD's a brat and I don't want her here unless she changes her behaviour. DH told her she can't come back until she's nicer to me and that's just not going to happen.

I did tell him before we got married that I had to be #1 if I was his wife. He agreed to that and now he has me 2nd to a brat that doesn't even come here anymore. It's enough to make me leave, I'm seriously considering it.