Let me explain . . .

I have been the driving force behind this kid when it comes to accomplishing anything. Even now, after being shown for the past 5 years, he can't properly make a bed, cut his food, wipe up a spill, etc. Although, he definately has more motivation to do it now that Daddy's paying him.

As far as school goes, the usual routine has been me checking everything before he goes out to play (what his assignments are for the night, if he has them, when projects are due, and when tests are coming up). I then remind him to study, check over his haphhazard attempt at assignments and go over it with him, remind him of upcoming projects, etc. Even with this, he'll drop the ball somehow, like forget to bring in an assignment. Anyway, Dad will usually help him last minute, basically tell him how to go about everything.

So my plan is to check out completely. I know it's the end of the year, but I already started to not give a f*ck of what he does. I tell him not to ask me anything when he gets home unless it's an emergency. He doesn't need my permission to go out and playcare where he is and I don't even want to see what's in his backpack. If he has any questions . . . call Dad. I'm sure the lazy little brat thinks this is the best. No consequences. Because by the time Dad does get home he probably won't ask about homework and if he does, SS can always lie or get it done in a rush without Dad pressing him to check it.

SS is done with school next week and will spend most of the summer with his Mom (THANK GOD for that little break). This fall will be 5th grade, very important in prepping for middle school. I bet you this kid will either fail or come close to it (unless Dad decides to do everything for him). And I have to say, I'm looking forward to watching it happen. Because then maybe my husband will see how serious this situation really is and how lazy and spoiled his kid is. My husband fought to make sure he could move my SS10 out of state away from his mother because he thought he'd have a better chance of stability here. Well, what really happened is the kid is getting everything handed to him. If he's not learning anything, then why do I have to deal with his selfish, entitlted, disloyal, deceitful butt? He deserves to be with his mother.

So there you go, I wish to see him fail, in hopes that my husband will wake up. And the only part I play in his future failure is simply not giving a sh*t enough to keep track of his assignments. Because if not, he will be 18 years old with academic abilility to get into college and no work ethic to get a job that supports himself, and guess who he'll be expecting to support him? Even though my husband would be pissed, I know if SS was in that situation, my husband wouldn't turn him away from a place to live. And I want nothing to do with that! Nor do I want my children to look up to lazy unmotivated big brother.