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*headdesk*

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Oh the magical predictive powers of the stepmother.

For two months now I've been hearing "Don't worry about thanksgiving, SD won't try to come."

Uh huh. Sure she won't.

Background on me being told this - her last family visit in August apparently did not go well. Most of the family - aunts, uncles, cousins were ticked at her by the end of it. I didn't see her but had to deal with the fall out of her being a total &$@# to DH while he was in the hospital.

Rough week

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So a little over a week ago DH woke me in the middle of the night and off we, DD3, DD1 went to the ER. DH ended up having emergency surgery. He was released a few days later, then 24 hours or so after that back to the ER and re admitted. He's still there.

Planned for this just past Saturday was a sort of mini family reunion at SIL's house. It wound being around 35 people, she had 10 staying the night. DH had been planning on going, but of course he got to hang out at the hospital instead.

Keeping perspective

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So the nonsense continues. Two weeks later and only one of DH's siblings has said anything about SD's visit. It seems the visit was arranged between SD, neice19 and DH's sister. Neice surprised her parents with SD and they mostly stayed at Neice's apartment. Apparently the lack of mention to DH is all fear motivated - "we don't even want to breathe on it in case it breaks". Whatever. DH feels a little bit better about that brother so yippee, terrific.

FFS

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So DH has been trying to get together with his family this weekend, what with the holiday and all. He finally gets a text back at 8:30 Friday night from his sister. Calls, no answer. Talks to her for 30 seconds Saturday morning - so sorry, she's So busy, she just Can't. So we've been doing our own thing the last two days and today we're hanging out with my family.

And cue the stage entrance

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And she's back....

So after a (very peaceful) year - it looks like SD19 is "going to try to rebuild" her relationship with her dad. He hasn't heard from her in a year, not since the co-pay call. However, DH got laid off and because I'm probably stupid, I told him he needed to notify her before the insurance was gone so she could find an option and not get slammed unexpectedly. Of course, we don't actually have any contact information for her at this point.

*rolls eyes*

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So after months and months of silence and non-response, SD18 called her father today.

Was this to check in, see how he is, maybe see how her little sister is? Of course not. Was it, as I had predicted, about money? Well gee, yes yes it was.

Feel like I have another skid

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And it's annoying. It's not life altering, it's not the worst thing ever, but it's annoying.

DH has a "nephew" from a "sister" that was never fostered, adopted or a step or anything. She was a troubled kid that stayed at their house sometimes but was mostly in a group home. This nephew is.... special. What kind of special, I can not say because he has never been diagnosed to my knowledge. But he must have something wrong with him because social security recently decided he deserved a check every month.

What does BM do when CS ends?

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She gets married!

Yes, oh yes, BM got married, less than a month after the court told her fat chance of gouging DH for any mover money. And because she can't possibly support hr own party habits, she found another victim. Husband number 4. DH feels sorry for the guy but did wonder how SD would be feeling about "her mother abandoning her" by getting married, since of course that's what he was told he was doing when we got married.

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