I frequent this site often, even thought I'm not yet officially a step mom. I've been with my fiancee for over four years and we are getting married at the end of the month. His son is currently 8 years old. I've known him since he was just a little baby. I love him so much that it hurts me when he's not with us. I wish he lived with us full time. The background: BM and BD were never married. He was having doubts about being with her when she proposed getting pregnant because of biological clock ticking.