My SD has not been a part of our lives for the past 9 years. Then she came into the picture - my doing. You know the right thing to do. So she comes and the world treats her like royalty. Husband and I almost split up over all this and I told her she wasn't allowed back - yeah, I feel really crappy. He says that she is a guest in our house. I say BS, anyone you pay $600 a month and drop at least $100 bucks on "fun stuff" and clothes every other weekend is not a guest. So if she comes back into our lives it involves my husband's mother.