SD19 has been estranged from DH for 3 months. SD21 stirred the shit pot during the holidays, so SD19 took her side and rarely speaks a word to us. (SD21 wanted to come to Thanksgiving at our house, so she accused me of child abuse when she was 15. Mind you, this kid has been 200lbs and over since she was 12, and she was the one who raised her fist to me. I walked away.)