SS5's behavior continues to get worse . . .
SS5 is about to turn 6. I genuinely love this kid, but he is driving me nuts right now.
An hour ago, he told me I couldn't have any of the DOZEN donuts his dad bought this morning because they were for him and his brother only.
He torments his 2 year old brother constantly. This includes pushing, pulling him to the ground, jabbing him in the side, stepping on him, and grabbing him by the crotch.
He also "frames" his brother by antagonizing him until SS2 hits, and then getting SS2 in trouble for hitting.
He lies about teasing his brother.
He hides his brother's toys in his bedroom in the closet or under the bed and then tells him he can't have his stuff back.
He lies and tells his brother his father has left the house, which frightens and upsets SS2.
He tells his brother to go in our room when we are showering so that he will get in trouble for being in there when we come out.
He tells his brother what to do CONSTANTLY and chastizes SS2 when he does what he wants instead of what SS5 wants.
He tells adults what to do.
He has no respect for women and thinks he is their peer.
He argues:
"SS5, don't open the front door. We don't know who is here."
"I'm just going to open it and see."
"I said don't open the door."
"But I want to know who's out there."
"Sit down at the table. I'm not going to argue about this."
"I'm just going to stand next to the door."
"Sit at the table NOW!"
"But-"
Anyone had any luck with these sorts of behaviors?
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Yup. When he hurts SS2 do the
Yup. When he hurts SS2 do the same thing to him. If he pokes, poke him in the same place. He wants to go outisde, sure kid. Put him outside and turn off the lights. Get tough with the little toad. If he argues, "If you say another word the donuts are going down the sink." And do it. He will cry and make a fuss and tell his father. Big deal.
Take his crap and hide it in the trunk of your car.
Then when he is broken (it doesn't take more than 2 hours) you sit him down and say "You want me to keep picking on you? Stop teasing and annoying your brother. I am sick to death of it. So you are going to bed NOW and SS2 is staying up for an extra hour. MAybe tomorrow you will rethink your behaviour."
And if your DH is not on board, time to sign him up for the Good Ship Punishment.
I have really been
I have really been considering doing something like this. We use time-outs here, and we take things away (toys, tv, etc), but neither has been working.
We just started making SS2 and SS5 go to bed at the same time because SS5 has been such a brat about getting more priviledges. He is constantly trying to draw the line between himself and SS2 and insist that SS2 is little and shouldn't get the same things he does.
I think DH finally recognized that SS5 is trying to create a pecking order and that it is negatively affecting SS2.
Sounds like SD6 only she
Sounds like SD6 only she doesn't really argue with you she will just do as she pleases.
It's really good to hear
It's really good to hear about a positive skid situation where the kids are actually getting better instead of worse.
I'd say that SS2 is getting much MUCH better. He use to be impossible to deal with. I really felt like I spent a year and half of a my life listening to him scream. He is 200% better now.
SS5 just started school, and his behavior so far has gone down hill as a result. I think the teachers there are encouraging him to be "the leader" which for SS5 translates to controlling all the other kids and telling them what to do, etc. So, then he comes home and he wants to do the same thing here and then gets mad that he is not allowed to dictate his brother's every move.