So we cut off contact with my lying ingrate of a SS and his two faced lying gossip of a wife two years ago.  I think it was a mutual decision for the most part. I wish nothing bad for them.  I hope they have a good life but just leave me and my family alone.  Life is so much more peaceful without the added anxiety of dealing with people like them.  Here are some anxious thoughts though.  

There is some family medical history now that SS is unaware of.  At least I think he is, unless MIL told him about my husband's procedure earlier this year.  We also found out about another medical issue that FIL had.  FIL was not in my husband's life by FIL's choice.  He was evil anyway so no loss there.  I think SS should be aware of these medical issues because they run in families but if we were to let him know he would think that we were opening the door to communicate with them again, which, speaking for me, I'm not willing to do.  I haven't mentioned anything to my husband but he hasn't said anything either.  SS is the type that he would probably try to just pick up where we left off and act like nothing happened.  As long as he and his wife aren't held accountable for their behavior, expected to apologize or change their behavior, then they would totally want to talk to us.  But I'm not willing to associate with lying fake people nor do I want them around my bios.  I'm probably going to just continue to not say anything to my husband because if he wants SS to know medical history he can handle that himself.  I also have this fear that he'll want to get in contact with them again.  He won't like my boundaries of "I can't stop you from talking to them but the kids and I will NOT be involved.  They will NOT be welcome in our home or around me and our kids, we will NOT go to any family gatherings where they are but you go if you want".  He won't like that at all and will try to push me to come along.  I will have to turn into a brick wall.  

Another issue is this. SDIL's mother just passed away.  Another in law decided to text and let me know.  Her dad is also deceased.  SS in the past tried to guilt me into being grandma to his child saying that SDIL's mother wouldn't be around too much longer and BM is also deceased.  After her dad died they started making a fuss over DH for Fathers Day.  So fake.  Before her dad died my husband didn't even get a card, maybe not even a text.  My fear is they'll try to push contact with us once again because they feel their baby needs grandparents.  I get it.  My kids don't have a grandpa.  Their friends do.  FIL was not a good person and he is dead anyway.  My dad was a wonderful man and father but he died before my kids were born.  They don't see their grandmas much either.  MIL is in a nursing home and COVID protocols limit visits.  My mom is terrified of COVID so doesn't leave home and will only visit if we come to her house where we can visit outside.  She wears a mask and keeps her distance.  No hugs.  Even if she was vaccinated she still would behave in the same way.  It sucks but it is what it is. Didn't mean to go off on a tangent.  

But all of that to say I do worry about forced contact and more annoying drama, guilt trips from them and possibly from my husband.  MIL and another family member have a history of being flying monkeys. He told MIL to knock it off so she isn't as bad but he has yet to tell the other one to shut up and mind their own business.  He tells me about conversations sometimes.  I just let him talk usually and try not to put in my two cents.  I do occasionally tell him what I think though.  Usually that they need to butt out.  Now I'm going to try to remember if I took my vitamin. Remembering is a sweet reward when you've got a brain like mine.