Well it was a great week with the kids. No major skirmishes after SD13 mouth off. All was good until DH and I went out on Saturday night and SS11 dropped a bomb on my son and asked him not to tell me or his dad or he won't be able to go to his mom's house anymore. Well my son told me on Sunday on his way to his Religous Ed class. Ironic... He looked so panicked to tell me. I told him it was okay and he should never keep secrets from me. I have been saying that since the kid was a baby. With the hell my son has been through with losing a baby brother and a father, our relationship is very strong. It turns out that BM new husband his daughter was expelled from the HS for passing out drunk at lunch in the cafeteria. They got married over Thanksgiving and his BD15 moved in right after because (we were told)the mom couldn't afford to raise her anymore. Now I think that is bullshit. I think she couldn't control her.

My son came home and told us back in January that a girl at school had been expelled for drinking and he didn't know her but she had the same first name as this girl. Turns out now, my husband asked BM if she had heard this. She said no. Now it turns out it was her SD.

We think they got married because my DH and her went back to court a few years ago because of another issue and while there my DH had an issue with another daughter of this guy having an influence on his kids. That kid was trouble from the get go and they weren't even living together then. They saw a mediator. and they settled on that no other kids could reside in the house unless they got married. She had to make sure that they weren't ever alone with this girl. Right after that his daughter went to some boarding school and then to her mom's after being suspended from the HS. She beat up a girl. She is a lost cause from what I understand. THis new SD we were told was in all honors classes. Turns out that was a lie, my son is and she never ended up in any of the excelled classes. She managed to get expelled from school after being there three weeks in January and we are just finding this out now. Our town is similar to Stepford in that the schools don't mess around with these kids. It is one of the top school districts in the state and they don't want you to screw up their scores. Any problems and they resolve it quick.

DH is insisting on meeting with her today face to face - no email. He says she has never been able to lie to him directly. Which is why she only communicates now via email. They avoid each other completely. My issue is now that he is going to push for full custody. He can get it with me working from home now and she works so much with her crazy schedule. I support him but, I really like having one week off. I told him we would work it out, but he needs to do what is best for the kids. I wonder if we had them full-time, would she have to pay us Child Support? Funny!!!

I wonder if it is better if we get the full custody and we can control things more. Be more effective with parenting. Instead of him guilt parenting because of the 50/50, he could be on top of the issues before they are a problem. Now it feels like as soon as we have a handle on schoolwork and other issues they go home and we start all over the following EOW.

She lied to my DH, scared her kids by telling them if you tell your dad you won't be able to live here anymore. Thus scaring an 11 year old for the last two months. My son said he looked so relieved to tell someone. Which now puts a burden on my son that he had to tell me. I want to be there so badly to tell her off. Your actions cause issues not just for your children, but for my child as well. She has had an effect on everything in my life for the last five years and I never say a word to anyone but DH. We have such issues with SD13 about mouthing off and now mom tells her to lie to dad. What kind of message does that send? The kid only lies once in awhile now, but she certainly knows how to bend it.

I have to be prepared that we may change the custody. Not sure how BM can resolve this to DH's satisfaction. But, she does need to realize that what happens in that house affects her children. This will be interesting.