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Submitted by libbie on Wed, 01/04/2017 - 6:12pm

Bm called dh this morning and was begging him to let her take sd. She offered all kinds of incentives (she called them that). She offered no child support and all transportation covered for every break. Dh doesn't believe bm would follow through with that. As soon as they moved bm would back out, I am sure. Dh told her nope. So then she got mad and started screaming at him. He quit answering her calls and this afternoon she sent him a text saying she is moving at the end of the month and does he want to BUY sds stuff from her. Dh texted back no. Lol!!! So at the end of the month sd will be moving in and bm is moving away.

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Submitted by Peridwen on Wed, 01/04/2017 - 6:35pm

Yeah, I suspect if DH contacted the military husband's CO with a copy of the judge's order stating SD was not to be removed and proof that BM willfully violated that order - he'd probably be ordered to get his wife in line. How the military members and their families behave reflects on the entire military and the officers I know were hardasses about stuff like that. It may not technically be within their purview, but they handled it none-the-less. And if her DH KNEW she was court-ordered not to bring SD and chose to violate the order anyway, he might be considered an accomplice.

It's hard enough on military parents who have to move when they are split families. I can't imagine how much worse it would get if a couple 'military' families committed parental kidnapping.

Note: I am not IN the military, nor am I from a military family. I'm commenting solely on things my military friends have said about their COs. And one friend who was told "Get your wife in line or get out of the military."

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Submitted by libbie on Thu, 01/05/2017 - 9:30am

Her dh already moved. She stayed for the court case and when she lost she said she wasn't moving. I guess reality hit her? Either way she is supposed to leave by the end of the month.

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Submitted by libbie on Thu, 01/05/2017 - 9:36am

I don't know. I think she was staying with a friend but all I know for sure is that her dh is already there and has been for over a month.

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Submitted by Peridwen on Wed, 01/04/2017 - 6:52pm

If she takes SD against court orders I'm assuming OP's DH would first contact BM and the Stepdad before going to the military CO. If BM is willing to knowingly go against the court order and take SD with her despite custody reverting to the dad I doubt BM would be willing to return SD without force, so yes it is an option. If my kid was taken by the other parent against court orders and refused to immediately return the child, you bet your ass I'd contact the CO. In a heartbeat!

It may be a jerk move, but IF it happens the real jerk move was BM taking SD in the first place.

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Submitted by libbie on Thu, 01/05/2017 - 9:33am

If we involve the police his command will be notified and he would be in a world of trouble. Going to his commanding officer is best for his career.

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Submitted by libbie on Thu, 01/05/2017 - 9:39am

You don't understand what you are asking. If we alert the authorities and especially the FBI that bm kidnapped her than they will be at her husbands command and he will be in a butt load of trouble and possibly discharged from the military over something like this. If you go to his commanding officer it gets handles and can be swept under the rug.

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Submitted by libbie on Thu, 01/05/2017 - 9:31am

If bm takes sd the first phone call is to his commanding officer to get this straightened out. If we involve the police and the military base police at his command it would be much worse for him.

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Submitted by libbie on Wed, 01/04/2017 - 6:49pm

It is spelled out. The only bad part is that dh has to pay for part of travel. He has to buy the return tickets.

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Submitted by Maxwell09 on Wed, 01/04/2017 - 6:25pm

I wouldn't rejoice too much all it takes is a mad BM to tell her impressionable child to wreck havoc on Dad's household to come out a winner in this situation. Aside from that I wish BM would move away from us, she has gotten to close with her last move.

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Submitted by Maxwell09 on Wed, 01/04/2017 - 7:35pm

That doesn't mean her mom won't tell her she can behave like a brat for dad so he'll give her what she wants or tell her she doesn't have to listen to you because you aren't her "real" mom. It's never as cut and dry as "BM is moving away" there's always, always something to watch for...

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Submitted by libbie on Thu, 01/05/2017 - 9:35am

That is the one. Once she realized she had to move she had no problem taking allergy medicine. She took it over Christmas break without any reminding or complaining.

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Submitted by robin333 on Thu, 01/05/2017 - 8:49am

^^^ This. I know it's a warm fuzzy feeling right now thinking that you and DH beat BM. Teenage girls are the devil. I have one and I've thought about dropping her off on the side of the road many times. And she's really a good kid and she's mine BUT well, just wait. Be careful what you wish for and the motives behind those wishes.

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Submitted by notsurehowtodeal on Wed, 01/04/2017 - 10:40pm

What about the allergy to the dog or cat? I can't remember which it was. Has SD agreed to take allergy medication of some sort? If not, how is that going to be handled?

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Submitted by Sweet T on Thu, 01/05/2017 - 6:08am

Personally, I would be careful what you wish for. This girl sounds like a handful and now she is all yours.

I am sure her mom is emotional right now but you all have court martialed her and step dad and they have not done anything at this point.