I dont know how to deal with my lesbian step daugther (to be)
I have a boyfriend, i live in argentina and he lives in the USA, we me online, he came visit me a few months ago. we spent a really good time together and we were really in love. i felt i could make all my dreams true, have a family, a perfect life, a perfect marriage, etc. he has a 13 years old daughter, and she just told him shes bisexual.. i am in shock.. i dont know how to handle this. i mean, i was already scared of becoming a tennager step mother. and now i have to deal with her bisexualty. i dont know if she knows what is she talking about, bc it wasnt a confession, it was like a normal talk and saying " i think im bisexual bc i find boys and girls cute".. maybe shes just confused.
i dont know.. its like i dont accept that.. all my ideas of happy marriage, happy family, are gone. i know we can be a happy family whether her daugther decides to do with her sexuality. but its like for me, it wont be perfect. thats not the way i thought my live would be. i didnt expect that for me. i wanted more, a perfect family without gay children. now, i am afraid to have a child with him.
i dont know, maybe if she was my own daughter i wouldnt matter if shes gay bc i would love her anyway. but shes not my daughter, i dont even know her so of course, i dont love her. and i am not sure if i want to deal with all the problems gay ppl have. and i fell this girl will be a problem and i dont want that..
so, im confused, i dont know wheather to continue my relationship with him. i dont know if i wil be able to handle this once we r together. but i dont want to lose him either.
i feel terrible also bc im having those feelings now. i do have gays and lesbian friends, and i am very close to them, but its like i never expected it would happen to me... and in fact, it is not happening to me, it is happenint to him. and im not sure if i want to be with him now.
If this is honestly how you
If this is honestly how you feel, please, for everyone's sake, leave this girl (and her father) alone. Move on and pursue your ultimate goal of a "normal" family with someone who fits your definition of normal, and don't bother trying to change anyone to fit into your ideal. Find someone who fits as they are.
You should not be with this
You should not be with this man and his child. You really should not have children either, you will find out that reality is they do not fit into your preconceived notions of "perfect". Good luck with finding a perfect family, this is not it. Also this child has a mother and you are not it. Classic rookie stepmom mistake, you are not a mother to the children and you will not be their mother. Way to set up strife and the homophobia is even worse.
My 14 year old told me she
My 14 year old told me she was bisexsual about a month ago.
What she was really trying to explain is that she didnt care whether a boy or girl liked her what she was really trying to get accross is that she just didnt care at all if anyone liked her.
You spent a couple of months with this man, I wasnt aware you could build a life time of happiness in a couple of months let alone tell the future.
Am I missing something here?
How exactly will your SD's
How exactly will your SD's sexuality affect you?
Are you worried she'll proposition you?
Why don't you just ask her if she's your type. Answer's probably no. Problem solved.
LMFAO!!!!!!! Well said.
LMFAO!!!!!!! Well said.
If you cannot deal with a
If you cannot deal with a bi/gay kid? Find a new man. It is YOUR problem, not his or hers.
Stay in Argentina. Find an
Stay in Argentina. Find an Argentian man who will be perfect for you with no kids. Don't risk leaving because, who knows, you might get hit by the gay bug - or the black bug - or maybe, even, God Forbid - the love bug.. which is the bestest of all 'cos love teaches you how to accept and treat others - in love? tch..girl.. you don't even know the meaning of the word.
If you are not sure that you
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