How did MY Dad get involved??
Wow, this can get complicated.....but here goes.
This morning, SS told me he left something for me in my chair in the living room. It was a ripped up picture...a picture of his Mom and StepDad that he had in his room.
He's been mad at BM since (and before) he moved in with us 9 months ago. Most recently, he wrote BM a letter to tell her how he feels about the way she treats him when he's with her for visitation and that he's going to take a "break" from seeing her (this is an option that he was given by BM). Well, he received a very nasty e-mail from BM and he's had it on his mind ever since and has been going to write her another letter all week.
This morning he decided to write BM a letter and wanted me to sit with him while he did. Well, while he was writing his letter, I took the opportunity to write a letter to my Dad who lives almost 400 miles away.
While we were writing, he asked me why I was writing a letter to my Dad and I explained to him that I don't get to see him because he lives so far away and we don't always have the money to go for visits and this is how we keep in touch...SS then says, "well, why do you write him if he's mean?" WTF???
I told him my Dad isn't mean and then asked SS what gave him the idea that he was? SS says BM told him my Dad was mean...Again I say WTF??? I told him that his BM doesn't even know my Dad...how could she say something like that. Well, apparently my Dad must be mean, because that's why I'm mean...according to BM!!!
She's such a BITCH!!!
This is the level she stoops to in order to make my SK's hate me!!
I explained to my SS that his BM doesn't even really know anything about me so how could she know anything about my Dad.
In reality, I believe BM feels this way because she's talking about herself and projecting it onto me. She and her Father never (and still don't) get along and in fact, he usually gets in her face about her bad behavior and since she doesn't think she does anything wrong.....therefore, her Father is mean.
GOD, IT NEVER ENDS!!! It's hard to tell how long ago BM told my SK's this lie!!!!
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thats terrible
I feel for you. I hope SS can eventually understand that you and your dad get along and your dad is not mean. Maybe read SS a letter from your father and the nice letter may help him realize your father is a nice man and you have a good, healthy relationship with him.
Thanks, Smurfy...I'll do
Thanks, Smurfy...I'll do that...and Cruella, I've been where you are as well and then some. BM has constantly told SK's that anyone related to me is no relation to them.
Here's a new twist, though...Hope I don't lose anyone on this one
On my Birth Son's side of the family (my ex's side) My Birth Son is actually 3rd or 4th cousin to his Step Brothers and Step Sister....so they ARE actually related.(We found this out after DH and I had been together for awhile)
Of course, BM found out about this and tells the SK's that I'm "some kind of hillbilly...involved in incest". BM CLUELESS!!!
Apparently I need to send BM a book on genealogy and family trees.
"SOME PEOPLE WEREN'T MEANT TO HAVE CHILDREN"
I can totally relate
Cruella...when you said
..."she doesn't do a damn thing for the kids but is going to undermine the people who do?"
That's EXACTLY how our BM is!!! She says anything she can to undermine me, my DH, his parents, the SKIDS friends...anyone. It's really sad. I think BM's are so insecure, they have to lash out at someone. But, as my SKIDS have gotten older, they've seen right through her silly games. They KNOW who has their best interest at heart...at it's certainly not their mother!!!
Good luck to you SteppieMary. It sounds like your SS already thinks a lot of you...asking you to help him write a letter to his mother. Not many skids would do that. So, obviously, he knows who he can trust.
Yes, I have a very close
Yes, I have a very close bond with my SS. I used to have a good bond with my other SS and SD as well, but they have been more influenced by their BM's mind games than this particular SS. Unfortunately, lately, the times where I THINK we've had a good weekend, it always comes back and bites me in the A$$ with these two as they go home to BM and tell lies
"SOME PEOPLE WEREN'T MEANT TO HAVE CHILDREN"