BM and DH do not exchange any formal child support and haven't for a very long time. They do however try to split things (sports and extracurricular activities) 50/50 and usually succeed to our pestering (she takes months to pay us back while we are always on time). In the past two years she was unemployed, then had a job for 9 months, then was unemployed again, and has now had this new job for 4.5 months. Maybe 4.5, because today SS7 told us that his mom doesn't have a job anymore. So if she hasn't been working since the last time she had him it has been about two weeks since she has been jobless, since we trade week to week.
Is it any of our business whether or not she has a job?
Around February of this year we were on the conversation of insurance and she didn't want us to put him on ours because she didn't want to split it. She said she KNEW hers at work was good and she would add him on hers. Then she left that job. Was unemployed. Then got a new job and promised she would add him once she had been there for 30 days. She has been there well over thirty days and he still has medical. We would like to add him this year since obviously she is not a reliable source of health insurance.
She also was all for telling us that she was applying to become a foster parent for her nephew and ALL the details (which I appreciate since it does affect SS7), but not once mentioned not having a job anymore.