How do you manage the money with skids when they not with you?
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So we are away for a few days, sd15 called DH in tears saying she needs money for a ticket to some show all her mates are going to.... She does not have a bank account as BM won't give DH copies of skids birth certificates so.... We said we can't help unfortunately. So what's the best way to handle these kind of things?
"We are on vacation, your
"We are on vacation, your lack of planning does not constitute an emergency for me/us, we will discuss this when we get home."
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Or the shorter version
"Ask your mother"
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Lol
Lol
I've heard others on here say
I've heard others on here say that they have cash cards for the kids, so you can load up some money on there for them remotely if you have the details. I've not used one before so I don't know all the details. In this case though I would agree with just_his_wife, the kid needs to plan better, going to a show is not an emergency and tears do not get you money.
Yeah! She asked for a bank
Yeah! She asked for a bank account with money in it for her birthday, so we owe her that if BM can play along and stop been such a control freak. So pathetic!
Nope not in US. There's much
Nope not in US. There's much more to this story of the birth certificates than I care to explain... Whimsical BM has previously tried to leave the country with skids and it cost us a fortune to get a order in place that she can't. So this is probably payback for that....
I have USAA too. That sounds
I have USAA too. That sounds like a great idea. Do the cards have their names on them?
Yeah we tried the prepaid and
Yeah we tried the prepaid and BM used them. I'm sure we will figure our something.
^^^same happens to DH^^^ Had
^^^same happens to DH^^^
Had savings for skids, BM emptied them and closed them...
Agree too
Agree too
Initially we gave the SKid
Initially we gave the SKid cash when he was traveling for visitation. The Sperm Clan forced him to fill up their gas tanks, pay for lunch for everyone, etc.... He knew that was not what that money was for but they put on the full court guilt press "that is our CS money, we paid for that and you are here so ......"
So we quit sending cash. We ended up opening up a kid account with my DW as co-account holder that was attached to our bank account. When he would travel we would transfer money in when we put him on the plane and transfer all of the money out when he would call when his plane landed. The same on the return.
We stuck the Sperm Clan a few times with that tactic. They pumped a bunch of gas and his card was declined as well as other occasions when the clan went to lunch immediately after picking SS up at the airport and his card was declined. }:) }:) }:) It was a great experience when he called with Sperm GrandHag ranting in the background about not having the money to pay for gas or lunch.
Not our problem Hag. You are the one who made this bed by stealing his money in the past so tough shit.
When a Skid is with the opposition support is their problem. Tears, etc.., doesn't matter. Not your problem.
Enjoy your vacation and let BM deal with it.
BS20 has had a regular cc
BS20 has had a regular cc since he was 14. SS16 got his at 15. Both boys are trustworthy and ask to use it. It gives peace of mind for us. They have never abused it and I check BS's every day since he is at school. DH handles SS since we have separate finances.
You have to trust the kid. If not do a PayPal acct that you can add to. For our boys we did it this way so that they are building their credit as well.
Can you set up a PayPal
Can you set up a PayPal account without having a checking account attached?
Thanks peeps, I think DH is
Thanks peeps, I think DH is handling skids well. Just me that has to adjust to all these million of things to think about. But I have relished that half of them, are not my problem and I should just let it go.