dreading dinner with SD27 and her new boyfriend
I haven't posted anything for a long time, as things have been relatively calm, it's been mostly easy to stay disengaged from SD27 since she doesn't have a car and lives in a motel. Yes, she's a real winner. We take care of her 2 kids about half the time, the other half they are with their father.
On the rare occasions SD27 is around, usually it's at family gatherings with a large group, and I can avoid being in the same place she is for most of the time. I have a lot of pent up anger, and when she doess talk to me, I respond as little as possbile and get out of the conversation as quickly as I can. Her presence disgusts me, and I have no desire to try to be on good terms with her, I'm happy just to be civil. That is struggle enough for me.
DW is aware of my anger towards her daughter, and it obviously bothers her, but she understands that I have just cause to feel the way I do, and accepts it.
Now all of a sudden, DW wants me to join her in going out to dinner with SD and her new boyfriend, so we can meet the boyfriend for the first time. While I want to be there to help make the dinner less awkward for DW, I can't stand the thought of having to be pleaant and responsive to SD. Unfortunately, I am not usually one to hide my true feelings, it is hard for me to put on an act when I have so much anger inside towards SD. I fear that trying to do so will only increase my level of suppressed anger. I would welcome any advice on how to get through this dinner date and maintain my sanity.
Luckymomma ~ wow did you just
Luckymomma ~ wow did you just put things in perspective with me.
My SD is a true mean girl as well ~ and to comment on that statement No I chose not to associate myself nor my children with her EVER. If ever there was an apology I know #1 it would be fake and two have no desire to hear bs come from her mouth. She chose her actions ~ and has to live with her consequences.
It's amazing how little respect kids have for their parents choices in life. You don't have to like me but you will respect me. If not we will have nothing. I have tried n tried n the problems constantly go back to lack of respect.
Comments out of her mouth are constantly sexual driven ~ refers to friend as bitches ~ says titties and bounces her chest. Does drugs n drinks big time ( mom purchases alcohol after mom informed me that one if her parents was an alcoholic and has zero tolerance for that ) stalks our house. Has done the ding dong ditch deal at our house. Has egged , soaped up my car ~ toilet papered our trees on mischief night. Has harassed my children.
Have no time for her behavior ~ I chose never to be around her at all.
I think she was raised by wolves ~ who acts like this. I would never chose to have a friend like that in my life ~ soooooo it's never going to happen
I survived the dinner and
I survived the dinner and remained civil, but I can't tell you how many times I had to bite my tongue and not speak my mind. Like when DW told some story about when SD was a kid, and SD joked, "you're the worst mother ever." Or when SD talked about all the concerts she's been to lately, or her plans to go to Key West this summer, or her plan to go up to Boston to see a soccer game. Hard for me not to bring up the fact that she has money for all these things, but not for a car, a proper place to live, or to maybe spend some money on her kids? We pay for their clothes, summer camp, school lunches, sports, karate, pretty much everything. And countless other times during the dinner. By the end of the evening, I got more and more quiet, as I was feeling angrier inside by the minute, and feared anything I might say could come out sounding angry.
Now that the motel rates have gone up for the summer season, SD27 moved in with her sister, SD24, who is also a single mother raising 2 young children. I give that arrangement maybe 2 weeks before SD27 gets herself thrown out. Fortunately, she has burned her bridges at our house too many times for DW to consider letting her move back in with us.
What's with your question
What's with your question marks ???