Can't wait until they stop coming over

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Initially, I really wanted to be friends with them, but I can't take it anymore. I'm just writing to vent, so no one has to write back. I need a place to spill it where I know others - some others - will understand. Today, they went outside with their stuff without saying goodbye, and didn't even tell their dad they'd gone outside, which he thought was rude, since he needed to know that they were waiting on him to take them home. It didn't seem like we were having a particularly bad weekend during this visit (compared to so many others), so I guess my feelings were pretty hurt that they did that - it caught me by surprise, and made me feel even less important to them than I normally do. Since I can't have kids of my own, I always have this stupid glimmer of hope that someday, we'll be friends. I know that they feel hurt by me, too, but now I don't think we will ever be friends. I am the other woman that came between their mom and dad, and their dad chose me over their mom, but their mom has always told them that he chose me over them. So it is probably for the best when they are no longer forced to come over here.

Keep your head up and if it

Keep your head up and if it gets too much - know that it's ok to disengage until they are willing to give back to the relationship.

DH might also want to look into parental alienation syndrome and counseling on the weekends that the kids are with you.

Good luck,

My skids used to do that-

My skids used to do that- finally DH started parenting, and today they even picked a bottle of wine for me while in town. It will get better, but DH needs to double the efforts! Not you!

Im a long time lurker first

Im a long time lurker first time poster.did i understand you correctly that bm has told the children he chose you over them ? Im in the exact same situation which she reinforced by convincing my dh to stay away for months to give the kids time to adjust after he left . Adjust to what, life without their dad ? When they found out about me the pas which had already began went into full force.Both kids now refuse to visit and dont respond to his calls and only call when they want something which of course he can never refuse because if he did well thats further proof he doesnt love them right ? Its disgusting to see a gu sacrifice her children for her own selfish purposes . All the while glorifying in being the "better" parent cause the kids want nothing to do with their dad or his wife . Only one way to cope- disengage .

Well, at least you don't have

Well, at least you don't have to deal with them... Stay at your BioMonster's house until you can relate to society...

My Fiancé and I had a past 25

My Fiancé and I had a past 25 years ago. The BM doesn't like the fact that he is with me. I know the BM douche filled the Spawn with vile lies about me. There is nothing I can do to undo what she heard or thinks. Her thoughts.

Pretty shitty of a parent to do that. My fiancé loves me ~ has said that is not willing to lose this love. He has never felt love like this. Our love is effortless ~ when BM was married to him. They fought every day. ~ they hated each other. How in your right mind ~ as the SD think that their relationship was healthy ??? Are you kidding me.

I wish you luck ~ I disengaged over almost 2 years ago. I couldn't be happier. He just recently reconnected with the spawn. I just choose not to. I do not have to have a relationship w her. What sane person would chose that ??

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