We didn't blend until we married. Neither of us were about to "play house" with kids in tow.

It took... years. And we haven't been 100% successful.

Dated almost 3 years and lived together for a year before getting married. It's been hell ever since we moved into my house together. At first it was his 3 kids and my oldest...now it's just his 3 kids that we have problems with. I don't thing it's ever 100% until the kids are gone and dont visit.

I am curious as to how others have handled blending two families....

-- We aren't really blended, but started dating almost 5 years. Living together 3. No bios of my own, so I came into their world.

Ages, sex and where did you move to the mans house or the womans house or did you get a new one??

SD16 (now) SS13 (now). Bought a new house together, but it was more mine in the beginning. I picked it out and did a lot of the work originally.

How long did you date before blending the two families??
Still not blended really.

Dated 2 years, engaged for 2 years. Moved into his house he had with the Ex. Blended well with one kid and not so well with the other. Kept my house and rented it out, that is my back up plan...Married now for 3 years in June....

SD16 (no contact), SS13 and BS17

fdh and i started dating 3 months after we met. we started living together at the end of that year, in my place. that's when i started seeing sd eowe and figured out that i don't like her. after almost a year, we moved into his childhood home. we are 7 years in. i still can't stand sd19, but at least i don't see her much anymore.

Dated 6 months. He moved in with me and my BD. He had joint custody of SS and then after living together 6 months BM moves out of state and SS moves in full time. Ugh...def not what I had signed up for but I loved DH so I'd make it work. Lived together 2 years before getting married now married 2 years.

BD15 cannot stand SS14 and they never speak! They attend the same school but she pretends not to know him. I can't really blame her! I parent my daughter and DH "parents" SS but that doesn't seem to work very well. We are far from blended!

That's really cool post to be a part of and I am sure that it will help me to increase my knowledge.

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We dated for a year. He moved into My condo till we found a place we loved, not liked. Married for a wee over a year now. So been together 2 1/2 yrs now.

I have DD8 (lives w us full time). He brought with him 3 sons, ages 8,10,13. (they are every other week end)

So that makes us a total of 6 when we are all together. As far as my interuptetaion of blending, still working on that. We all moved into the Our house after the wedding. DH & my DD8 have an amazing relationship, but us 3 live here full time. I have a good relationship with 2 out of his 3 boys. So guess we arent fairing too bad on the blending thing.

Dated for 18 months, moved in together 5 months ago.

6 kids in total, my 4 BD's (22 not at home, 19, 9 and 6 still at home) and his 2 - sd11 and ss8.

Moved into a new house (rental at this point until both our houses sell and we buy the family home! (tongue firmly in cheek)

Not blended yet, getting there, dealing with things as they arise. I think we will both always have little niggly issues with each others kids/parenting styles etc. But we have agreed that some things we just have to agree to disagree on and the big things that effect everyone we have to discuss til we reach a compromise.

DH and I dated for about a year before moving in together, but we have known each other for about 12 years. We got married after being together 3 years. SD is 4. We have no kids together yet and I have none of my own with anyone else. We still are not blended. To be completely honest, I wish SD would just drop off the face of the early along with her dumbass mother.