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Bringing the germs to your house!

frustratedsince09's picture

So, SS7 came to our last night and was terribly coughing. When asked how long he had the cough he said "like a week now". DH took him to the Dr. today and he has a double ear infection and strep. Now, my BC2 will be exposed to those germs since his BM was too lazy to take him to the Dr. sooner. Has anyone else had to deal with this $hi+?????

Newstep's picture

Oh yeah BM does not give SD her allergy meds. So she comes home sick all the time. BF takes her to the doctor and a month later repeats the cycle. The last time BF told her if she didn't take care of SD he would take her back to court. I think it scared her a bit but I am sure she will slack off again. She went from taking SD to the doctor 3-4 times a month because she was not responsible for any co-pays or prescriptin costs. Now that she has to pay when she takes SD to the doctor, she no longer takes her says that she doesn't have time. She doesn't have a job!!! I don't know what the hell she is doing all day long that she can't take her daughter to the doctor but oh well.

briarmommy's picture

BM does this, I mean I understand that DH is a parent to so yes sometimes you need to take care of your kid sick or not I would just like a heads up. If she could call us ahead of time and say hey hes not feeling well so that I could take precautions like not have BD1 in the car when we pick him up and have his room ready for a sick kid. Hell half the time he will seem fine and then he throws up hours later, when you mention it to BM she then goes "ya, he has been sick all week" Well a heads up would have been nice before he was trying to kiss bd's head and touch all here crap. If a kid is sick you seperate them and make sure that they don't touch eachother or eachothers things(I try to do this anyway) but it is important when he is sick.

I think you need to realize that you can't control BM at all but this is our DH's child so sometimes you will have to take care of a sick SS. Whether you like BM or not should she really be the only one to deal with the sick child? If you had two kids would you be sending one away because the other was sick? I think its right to want a heads up, and its right to want BM to take him to the doctor hat is valid points but sometimes a parent has to take care of there sick child.

frustratedsince09's picture

Agreed, but why put the other child in harms way when 24 hours of anti-biotics would have eliminated the contagoues factor??? Plus over a week of the cough.....LAZY!!!!!

briarmommy's picture

Honey I agree with you, he should have went to the doctor, you are a 100% right on that fact. But you know we can't control BM and sometimes the best place for our stepkids when there sick is with us because BM doesn't do what needs to be done so DH has to pick up the parenting slack. You have a right to be upset but we can;t change BM.

HadEnoughx5's picture

Oh yeah, my BM is lazy about doing anything medical for the skids. And if we suggest she take them, she would say to BF "if it's that important to you then you take them". Of course BF works and would ask her to bring the skids to where he works, which is in the same town where the pedi is. She would say no. Then he said well SM will bring them to me then...she would say no. You want them to see the Dr., then you take them. So BF would drive 20 mins to pick them up, get back on the highway and drive 25 min. to get them to the Dr.

BF is self employed, he would lose 2 to 3 hours of pay because she just wanted to yank his chain. BM doesn't work.

Well all that bullshit lost her, her medical decision making for the skids. Now she has to look to my hubby to take care of things, but now she can't stop him from appointing me in taking them. The Judge was great, she told her that BF needs to work, he is the income for everyone. If you want him to do it all, then you can lower your standard of living because he'll be making less.

One time she lied to us about one of the skids not having pink eye. Few days later...I had it! Freaking Bitch!!!

Elizabeth's picture

Last time SD18 was in my house (about two years ago), she had strep throat AND an active cold sore. She then tried to kiss my BDs (hell no) and share a drink with them (hell no again). The bad thing is, she NEVER tries to kiss them and NEVER has, before or since, shared anything she has with them. I swear she was trying to get them sick on purpose!