Ok, so last night my SS10 comes home and tells my BD6 I gotta tell you something and walks downstairs to watch tv. I almost said what do you have to tell her b/c he can be sneaky, but I waited to ask my daughter. Now since he's been living w/us for close to a year, he's lied about numerous things and has been grounded a handful of times. So after a while he goes into the shower and I ask my daughter what he told her and she said that he got arrested. He stole the silly bracelets from the store w/his 1/2 brothers cousin (also his best friend) Before he came to live with us, him, his BM and brother were living with the brothers dad so he is close to the brothers dad. He also told my BD6 that the cops brought him home. He never came to our house so I asked where he went, which I already knew at that point, but I wanna make sure I am right and I was. The cops took both of them to the same apartment. The best friend/brothers cousin lives upstairs and the brothers dad lives downstairs. He did that b/c my DH would give him a whoopin of a lifetime, followed by a foot up his A**, followed by your grounded until your 70.

Now, my question to you is my SS10 told my daughter if she tells on him he will be mad at her and kick her butt. She told me in secrecy and she made me pinky promise I am going to tell my DH b/c this is just crazy and he needs to learn a lesson, but how do I do it so my SS10 doesn't blame my daughter and think she snitched. She's the only person who knew. He hates her already, which I am surprised he told her, but he did. So I don't want more hate there.

I thought of calling the store to see if it's true in the first place. Then tell SS10 that I have a friend that works there that thought it was him that got arrested last night and let him tell DH the story.

What do you think? I have just learned his brothers cousin11 is a thief and I just realized he is too. We have had a convo about stealing and this is not happening in my house and my BD6 thinking it's ok to steal too b/c she sees her older, cooler brother doing it.

I just learned he gets into trouble, steals, swears and has a GF and is only 10. This needs to be nipped in the bud NOW, but I am trying to do it w/out hurting the mini bond my BD6 and SS10 has actually formed. It's like he has to tell someone the bad things he is doing, other then the kid he's doing it with, so he vents to her sometimes. This is also a boy who is 60lbs and looks as sweet as pie. He's a DEMON and it's b/c his BM was a B**** and psycho too and she let him run around and do whatever he wanted for years and now we have to clean up her bad parenting mess, ONCE AGAIN.

It's gonna hit the fan this time!!!!