bit O/T - all hell broke loose
well well well, I'm enjoying my life....
When Aergia moved out - Daddy decided dropping your ass off in the city cause you are one spoiled brat....
I bought her a nice farewell gift, and in this gift. When wrapping the gift the box jumped open and the Divorce agreement falls into the box.
I do not believe in hiding anything facts..
In the divorce it was agreed (BM filed SO never argued)
BM gets the flat with no debt and she can rent it out for an income till the day Aergia turns 25, then they have to decide to sell or simply Aergia moves in and will stay in the flat, if BM sells the flat before Aergia's 25th then half of the money should be in a trust for Aergia..... guess what, BM sold the flat last year and there's no money set aside..... (Yes BM demanded this in the divorce and SO had the same clause on his holiday house..)
Both parents will have to deposit a monthly amount into a trust fund account till Aergia reaches the age of 18, then it will be paid out to her, Now It's not allot of money and I made SO depositing the funds from a couple of bonus payment years ago, Aergia wanted a horse and she send SO a text stating he should use that money and she will not ask for it once 18, I saved the text, BM told Aergia it's only SO's responsibility... Divorce agreement states other wise and BM never saved up the money, nor was there a payout to Aergia....
BM will be responsible for 33% of all Aergia's expenses till age 25 if studying, if not studying only till age 21.... BM never paid a dime for her daughter..... SO can only afford 70% of Uni and he told his Princess to apply for study assistance, she's to lazy to do that and well why should she, her mother should pay....
Now Aergia found this agreement lol and all hell broke loose, I thought SO would be angry with me for doing it, but actually he is laughing and relieved and said, it's time for his daughter to know the truth.... Aergia phoned me and asked me how will she get the money now from BM, she knows I know what to do, Dad simply told her nothing to do with me, you are not a minor anymore... I simply told her the same, you are an adult now, not a child, seek legal help girl..
BM is threatening SO with some or other bogus legal case now lol, how dare he give the divorce documents to his daughter it's private blablablabla
BM is threatening me as well, apparently she's going to make my life a living hell, yeah right as if you did not do it the past 7 years you cow...
I'm sitting back with a glass of wine and some cheese ......finally my step hell might have come to an end, Aergia apologized for everything in a very very long letter, but that did not change my stance on the brat, I still am disengaged and I still will not welcome her back into my life, simply because after 3 months of this crap, she and BM will kiss and make up.... like they always do....
SO also told me, he's not getting involved, cause they will kiss and make up and try and get the money from him, he went to lawyers to make sure he's protected..
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Wow- what a woman you are
Wow- what a woman you are Acrat, such style and panache! Karma came home to roost for her and it can only be onwards and upwards for you, I hope. Just make sure there are no backwards steps and don't leave this site! Apologies and forgiveness does not equal re-engagement either!
My thoughts as well! She's
My thoughts as well! She's only apologizing because she wants to suck up to you all and get assistance. Stay disengaged, she isn't sorry.
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'BM is threatening SO with
'BM is threatening SO with some or other bogus legal case now lol, how dare he give the divorce documents to his daughter'
Aergia is now majority age so I can't see how BM would get anywhere with that. She can know whatever your SO lets her know.
I agree, she needs to fight the money part out with her BM but I expect like you said they will be kissing and making up about it. After all, they have to keep up the fight against you so they need each other. Skids always end up licking BM's A** again no matter what BM has done, they just can't handle the truth especially when given to them by the other party.
I bet she doesn't want to spend money on legal advice. Must say, nice one Acra
I cant stop laughing at this!
I cant stop laughing at this! I friggin LOVE IT! You deserve a monster bottle of the best champagne for this! Love love love it! You ROCK girl!! Thank you so much for this awesome post! Talk about BM getting her just desserts..and as for Aegeria..oh man!! LOVE IT!!!
Oh, this is rich! Well done!
Oh, this is rich! Well done!
Oh very well played
Oh very well played Cheshire:)
This lot sound about as
This lot sound about as classy and dysfunctional as the lot I married.
Kudos to you for putting up with them for 7 years. There must be a medal for this some where
15 years actually just the
15 years actually just the last 7 years where pure hell and caused me moving out of our house almost 6 years ago and a break up of a couple off months last year....
but I always have known, the wheel turns... sometimes slow but hey it turns.....
I'm preparing for the next 5 years of crap but am enjoying my peace right now, may not be long lived lol
Acra, this is exactly what I
Acra, this is exactly what I needed to read!! Awesome job, hon.
As for not changing your stance, I completely agree. After all of that crap, Aergia needs to prove that she truly IS sorry and does not blame you. Her new attitude needs to be consistent. IF Aergia continues with the new attitude, then a day may come where you can actually relax a little. xoxo
no that day will never come,
I'm totally relaxed,
No bricked over door here.
No bricked over door here. The SDs are dead to me. They could be naked in a blizzard and a polar bear is whizzing on them and I will not lift one finger to help them. After all, they're dead (to me)! }:)
I’ve got that same stance
I’ve got that same stance with SS and his GF. Dead and buried. Done.
Notasm, does your DH know? I
Notasm, does your DH know? I haven't told mine and I never will. I was polite to them at Christmas (because I love my DH) only because they were actually SUPER nice to me. But dead is dead! They have never apologized for the BS they pulled. Even if they do (and I know they will not), I will never again open myself up to that potential sh!tstorm.
Acra may I ask why your SO
Acra may I ask why your SO never confronted BM over the money she needed to contribute to Aergia over these past years. Or did he and she just ignored the divorce agreement. BM sounds like she got away with way to much. Why wait till now to let Aergia know her Mum didn't follow the agreement. Sorry I don't know your story but I would never let my ex get away with this.
SO never spoke to BM after
SO never spoke to BM after the divorce I think in all the years he probably spoke to her twice..... but he still has to speak to her about handing him his balls back...... he simply kept quiet and paid....
My stance on it, not my ex wife, nothing to do with me, not my money either
and Aergia only turned 18 recently, thus not a minor anymore,
I decided it's time for her to know the truth, not SO.... BM signed all parental rights over to SO, thus she was never really involved only when the snot wanted to nail me would she be sucking up to mummy to do it for her, thus this agreement is sort of "pay back bitch".. I believe in never cast a stone if you live in a glass house and yes I'm vindictive lol... I always knew the day will come...
Aren't divorce documents
Aren't divorce documents public record??? Pretty sure she could get them since the involve her! (maybe idk... There were reasons I decided not to be a lawyer...) ZERO case!
Hopefully she gets the lawyer and goes to town with BM!
nope ours are not public
nope ours are not public record..... not the agreements any way..
Aergia is way to lazy to do anything about it, and SO already said he's not getting involved.... she will fight with BM, scream and punch her then ignore her for months, till either of them need something from the other one, they kiss and make up and stand together, I've been down this road now for years....
When Aergia physically assaulted me it was one of the times they where not talking, she called mummy and all was well, cause together they attacked me through lawyers etc, hence the break up, SO simply said he's not getting involved with it either, I can do what ever I want he will support me..
I failed assault charges and Aergia was only 17, well they lovy dovy relationship lasted 3 months cause then we broke up... SO and I sorted out our issues and got back together again and then Aergia was 18, I still refuse to drop the charges and the house is still to be sold, nothing will change my mind,
LOL, omg, this is
LOL, omg, this is beautiful!!!! I love that you accidentally included that in her farewell gift!
I am now fantasizing about doing the same with my SD in 8 years! The BM in my case is a control freak and their divorce/custody agreement is the craziest agreement I have ever read. BM is one of those fakey fake nice people. I think SD should see how BM really is behind the scenes when she is old enough to understand it!
Acra: Game, set, match
Acra: Game, set, match
I can only hope I can’t play
I can only hope I can’t play out my own situation as well as this.
(applauds)
(applauds) Brilliant!!!!
Karma catching up. Its been happening a bunch over here in my world too. I would have loved to see Aergia's face whilst reading said docu-drama paper and see her confronting mother dearest about her missing cashola.
My "karma catchup" was when Winona was trying to record her drunk mother, while arguing with mothers boyfriend, and TBM throttled her and slammed her against the wall.
She actually texted her father right after, and then pasted identical text to me, asking for a ride over. We both responded with; "sorry dear, we have had a few adult beverages, and are unable to legally drive over there (half mile), stay away from there and call uber..." We didn't want to be involved in the drama, and didn't want to get into it with BM. Winona and just turned 18. I suggested that she could file charges.
They are back to friends again, naturally.
I love how you and SO are really getting your groove on now. Its awesome!!!!!!!!
Keep us posted.
Acra, you are my hero. LOL!
Acra, you are my hero. LOL!