He has a new SO already
Ok so it's literally been three weeks and my ex has a new SO. He texted me to let me know he has a new gf and that this woman is okay with him doing whatever he needs to do to make his kids happy. She is okay with the enmeshment with the ex wife on a daily regular basis etc. so I guess I'm just a crazy person for leaving him.
I did not respond to his text. Not sure how he could have moved on this fast. I am hurt.
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It's hurts but on the other
It's hurts but on the other hand I don't want him back. Good luck to this new woman. She will need it. I'm kinda grossed out by him at this point anyway. I'm not sure how I was with him for so long now that I think about it. Not only is he a selfish jerk but I'm just not even that attracted to him physically or mentally. Yuk
I think it's a crock of crap.
I think it's a crock of crap. If he has really moved on he wouldn't have bothered enough to text you about it. He might be talking to someone and that someone might have casually met his kids and "likes" them, and he might have met someone who knows of BM but I SERIOUSLY doubt, like willing to bet money and I don't even play the powerball, that even if this woman is talking to him, she still has no clue what a mess he, his kids or his ex are. He's trying to get a response out of you, to hurt you like you leaving hurt him. Tell him you are Happy for him and wish them well then block his number.
I agree with you, that this
I agree with you, that this is how some women act.
I don't think we are all like this but we all have our moments.
I think this reasoning is why women will be mistresses.
They are hoping to prove that he will eventually leave his wife for her. That they are soul mates and meant for each other. That she's the one woman in the world who truly understands him, loves him and will always be there for him. No matter how he treats her, her low self esteem will always keep her there.
She may actually believe it too.
So Yolo, don't be upset, be sad for this poor woman who has no idea what she's getting into.
All of the above--total
All of the above--total acceptance--after a few weeks? Either he's found someone truly and dangerously desperate, or he needs to have a heart-to-heart conversation with his right hand.
Number blocked. Thanks all
Number blocked. Thanks all for your comments.
I was thinking the same
I was thinking the same thing. LOL
OMG HRNYC, seriously you just
OMG HRNYC, seriously you just gave me flashbacks to the movie "Airplane."
Ha ha! She should have text
Ha ha! She should have text him back "Great for you! Good luck with your new inflatable toy"
" ... he has a new gf and
" ... he has a new gf and that this woman is okay with him doing whatever he needs to do to make his kids happy. She is okay with the enmeshment with the ex wife on a daily regular basis etc."
Hahahahaha, snort, gasp, hahahahaha, wipe tears from eyes, hahahahaha, snort, gasp, wipe eyes on sleeve, snort, hahahaha. Gasp. Hoo-boy!
How nice for him.
Hahahahahahaha! Um...yeah.
Hahahahahahaha!
Um...yeah. Exactly. Poor guy hasn't learned a thing about how to make a woman happy...still thinks it's all about him...and is headed toward his third relationship disaster. Good luck to him.
wine, I had NO CLUE for 2
wine, I had NO CLUE for 2 years. My step hell didn't begin until we got engaged.
What he told you equates to
What he told you equates to one of two things
1. He is lying through his teeth, so you can be certain your divorce is all YOUR fault
2. He is telling the truth.. BUT this chick has only been around for a week or 2, so has no clue what she is in for and things will change IF she sticks around.
I personally hope it's #2 and she sticks around for a bit and then gets tired of the crap and dumps him. Then YOU can say I told you so.
Men usually find it harder to
Men usually find it harder to be alone than women, so sure, maybe he has a new "girlfriend". So new, in fact, that she is not going to say anything negative to him about how he deals with his kids or his ex. She probably figures she will change all of that, eventually. Or she doesn't plan on hanging around. Or she is desperate and will take what she can get.
Either way, it's good that you blocked him, he's playing games with you.
Yolo...I am so sorry to hear
Yolo...I am so sorry to hear about all of this. I have followed your posts and blog and I was so happy when you made it out. I can only imagine how devastating it was to find out that he has REPLACED you and quick. Calls into question everything I am sure.
What I do know is that you are better off without him, not only for the relationship reasons that you wrote about but now also because this man is a scoundrel.
You did a very smart thing by leaving him and even smarter for not marrying him. I made the mistake of marrying when all the reds flags were there. The lazy parenting, the head in the sand parenting and the worst of all taking SD's side on EVERYTHING. Trust me you dodged a bullet. Now I am looking down the barrel of alimony and God knows what else. We had that talk today. Spouse and SD12 will move out and get their own place so that they can be happy and most importantly I CAN BE HAPPY because I deserve to be happy and the last two years have been step hell.
YOU ARE FREE. Free to be you. To love again. To have peace.
And don't worry, I am 53 and am having the same questions about the future. You are not alone. BE thankful for what you have. Hold on to good friends, your sense of self, your smile, your own uniqueness. We will love again...if we want to. Look at our track record!
Good luck friend.