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Guilty for feeling this way ....

InLimbo's picture

Submitted by InLimbo on Mon, 01/11/2016 - 7:30pm

I had someone ask me today if I liked my stepkids. Without even thinking, I responded "yes for 1 out of the 2--guess 50/50 isn't bad". They looked at me horrified. An onlooker said "that's ok- where is it written that you have to like them?". The issues in our house all stem from this one child. I've tried .....God knows I've made an effort for numerous years now. Too much like their BM...it's like looking into the mirror and seeing exactly how the child will turn out. It's funny how when you first start off on the journey of step-parenting how jaded you are (especially if you are child-free by choice). You think it will all work out and be ok....but then you realize it's only gets worse as they get older (or at least in my case it did). Welcome to teenage-hood and all the crappy stuff that goes along with it. I don't think my feelings will change if they haven't already after 6yrs. Just feeling guilty to actually admitting that I don't like my stepchild. Sad

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HappilySelfish679's picture

Submitted by HappilySelfish679 on Mon, 01/11/2016 - 8:17pm

I don't like my skids and spend very little time with them. They have parents to tend to their needs and wants . The less I see them the better , certainly not ashamed to say it . They are a nuisance but they also taught me to put myself first and made me discover new hobbies . Thanks skiddos !

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Submitted by justanothergurlNJ on Tue, 01/12/2016 - 8:14am

I don't like my OSS11 YSS 8 is a pleasure to be around. I enjoy his company and really don't mind spending time around him, going to his sporting events, taking him places or just hanging out and playing video games with him. The older one makes everyone and everything uncomfortable! After many arguments with my SO I actually don't mind even like it when OSS secludes himself into another room and sits on Facetime with BM or plays with his iPad for the whole visit. Out of sight out of mind!!! Do I feel bad, a little because he is a kid, but he is BM's kid, acts like her, shows signs of the same mental illness as her,she created the person he is becoming! I don't see one quality of my SO in that kid, my YSS is my SO through and through! Whatever judge me, but I will not subject myself to that child and his BS and misery and manipulation!

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Submitted by justanothergurlNJ on Tue, 01/12/2016 - 8:14am

I don't like my OSS11 YSS 8 is a pleasure to be around. I enjoy his company and really don't mind spending time around him, going to his sporting events, taking him places or just hanging out and playing video games with him. The older one makes everyone and everything uncomfortable! After many arguments with my SO I actually don't mind even like it when OSS secludes himself into another room and sits on Facetime with BM or plays with his iPad for the whole visit. Out of sight out of mind!!! Do I feel bad, a little because he is a kid, but he is BM's kid, acts like her, shows signs of the same mental illness as her,she created the person he is becoming! I don't see one quality of my SO in that kid, my YSS is my SO through and through! Whatever judge me, but I will not subject myself to that child and his BS and misery and manipulation!