SS20 overdose saga continues...
What a fu#&!ng loser. Rgh
SO is finally home tonight... so happy to be able to spend a little time with him ... he's been going straight since Thursday. Work at 5 am and straight to the hospital until 9 or 10 with an hour drive home to do it all again tomorrow. No sleep, he's had no appetite, despite my constant nagging, and so his body has hit a wall and he just couldn't go anymore, hence being home for the night...but OF COURSE everything is still about SS. Texts, calls, you name it. All this in itself has been getting on my nerves, because well, we have an entire family to still think about and an entire life outside of SS's overdose. I've done my best to be supportive and listen and offer words of encouragement or advice here and there for SO but honestly I'm out of sympathy and compassion for this kid.
SO got the cold hard honest truth about SS tonight. And not from me (although for over a year I've been the bad guy for trying to tell everyone this). SS is a full fledged junkie. NOT the occasional "party time" user he's been claiming to be all this time. BIL hacked into his phone tonight and found numerous texts, EVERY SINGLE DAY, about getting his drugs, or doing drugs, etc.
SHOCKER. I believe I have been saying this the whole time!! FINALLY SO sees first hand that in fact I am NOT a heartless douchebag that has it in for SS, and that I have been right all along. I mean we have almost split numerous times because of my opinions and views as to what SS is and how he should be handled. And now, tonight, it's once again, I told you so.
I know at this time I shouldn't be saying things like that. But I also firmly believe that at this time everyone,ESPECIALLY SO, should be ANGRY with SS for lying all this time to everyone he loves, and putting them all through this AGAIN. Instead I get more excuses and end the argument hurt as usual.
I have been made to be some sort of villain for over a year concerning SS20 and FINALLY it has all come to light and STILL he gets babied and coddled and expected to take no responsibility.
I've resolved that I will forever be the a$$hole despite my good intentions, and that there is no help for this kid with his family being the way that they are.
He won't change from this... and I'm still waiting for the call that he's dead.
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My DH's older son was a
My DH's older son was a totally worthless hardass criminal gang member who participated in everything from drug dealing to murder. He ended up dead shortly after I met DH. As he was on the run from the law in another state I never met him.
To be perfectly candid - the world is better off without him. Sometimes the herd gets culled.
You absolutely have the right
You absolutely have the right approach.
My DS was a junkie and his GF (now wife). We tried everything and then I applied tough love with boundaries. It took them being homeless and having nothing to make them see what they were doing to themselves. After 10 years, they both work, own a house and are doing pretty good.
One of the reasons I was so
One of the reasons I was so upset last night, on top of everything else, was because one of the kids that's been not only supplying, but taking SS20 wherever he needs to go to get drugs, showed up to visit his "friend" in the hospital yesterday. Visited for a few mins, went into the bathroom for a few mins, and came out high as a kite (according to BM) and then left. SO found out and texted this kid "only going to say this once, stay away from SS. He does not need people like you around him at this time. He just needs to focus on getting better". The kid had the nerve to talk back and claim he's never done any sort of drugs with SS and he had nothing to do with this most recent OD. SO was calm and nice to a point ...
we actually did not find out until BIL had hacked into the phone that this kid was the ride and supplier for at least the last 2 weeks (since SS got this new phone from BM after selling his last one to get high when he left sober house). So that set SO over in regards to this kid, but STILL not SS, despite the fact that earlier in the day SS had asked BM to ask SO if this kid's number was still the same and called him to come to the hospital!!!
Hello!? Am I the only one that's mad that SS called his dealer to the hospital to visit when he keeps claiming he's "done now, never again"!?!? Yeah, sounds legit.
This kid will be dead in a year and my heart aches for SO.
Just know that addicts are
Just know that addicts are the most selfish people on the planet and they lie, steal, cheat, do anything to get that next high. If your SS actually called his dealer, then SS hasn't hit bottom yet. His promises are meaningless, worthless. Your DH will believe them though.
I'm so sorry for this horrible pain.
I am so sorry you are dealing
I am so sorry you are dealing with this. I wish your SO would wake up, he is not doing his son any favors.
It's hard to seemingly turn your back on someone you love and that's what your SO is thinking he would be doing, but sometimes you have to (like bearclub25 attested to).
My brother was on drugs,
My brother was on drugs, couldn't hold down a job, in and out of jail, and then our mother died. My brother was grown, like over 40 years old. When she died he straightened up, got a job, vehicle, house, hasn't been in jail anymore, doing great. Our mother babied him, went and got him, took care of him, it's no telling how much money she spent on him. I tried to tell her if she would stop babying him he would change but she wouldn't listen, then when she was gone and he didn't have anyone to depend on he straightened up. I know from the parent side it would be hard and I've always said that if I had to go through that with my own child that I prayed God would give me the strength to let go. They are going to keep on that cycle until someone makes it stop, till they have NO one to help them but themselves. I know it's hard for you and all of us telling you all this is like preaching to the choir.