So I ask DH why the spawn is doing a job he has already done yesterday and he explodes at me. Says he is sick of me questioning his parenting and he is angry because I haven't been sugary sweet to the spawn. So I let him have it! Both barrels! Told him what I thought of his oxygen thieving fucking spawn and how he changes into a pathetic door mat when he is around. Whatever the spawn wants, the spawn gets. How he ignores me and spends his whole time focusing on him. Then I mentioned all the "parent" things I had done and how I have to push him to do things or they wouldn't get done. (Pay school fees, buy books, organise parent teacher interviews, pay for school camp etc. Etc. Etc.) He didn't have much to say to that! I told him no more!
God it felt good not to back down anymore! Sick of caving in to keep the peace. Fuck em! There will be more shit coming but you guys have helped me feel strong enough to stand up and say, no shout "no more!". You guys are awesome!!!