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omg. bm died

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Submitted by sixteensmom on Sat, 08/10/2013 - 3:43pm

we don't have official confirmation yet but there was a terrible car accident. skids are accounted for.. they're all adults.. it was bm car and report is one dead.

I should be very sad.

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Submitted by hereiam on Sat, 08/10/2013 - 3:53pm

I would not mourn BM's death. I would feel bad for SD22, I would be concerned that she would start relying on us more and that my DH would feel more inclined to "help" (support) her but I would not mourn BM. She is a horrible person.

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Submitted by oldone on Sat, 08/10/2013 - 3:59pm

Isn't it sad when a person is such a miserable example of humanity that people are thankful she is gone?

To be honest that's how I felt about my older SS's death. He was a hideous gang member literally involved in murder and many other horrible things. The world is better off without him. I'm sure his 3 kids miss him but the older boy is totally following in his father's footsteps.

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Submitted by ltman on Sat, 08/10/2013 - 8:14pm

It definitely goes on after death. And then you look like an a1 asshole by reminding folks that saint mom wasn't all that.

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Submitted by momof5_1969 on Sat, 08/10/2013 - 4:48pm

This is a tough one to comment on.....because on the one hand, a person has died. On the other hand, she was probably a miserable human being and made life hell for many people. I know we could all probably admit to this that we have wished the "nightmares" to be gone from our lives. I know I've often thought that it would be so much better if she was gone, but I wouldn't want to wish that on anyone. It's too bad for the skids, and I'm sure they're going to be sad.

The problem that one runs into at this point is that as time passes, skids will forget all the horrible things she has done and she will get put onto a pedestal and you can't compete with that.

My condolensces to you all.

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Submitted by Finncole25 on Sat, 08/10/2013 - 4:48pm

ok....I have been waiting for a post like this. My SS's mom passed away about 2 years ago and it has been so much easier. I was not sad that she was gone (she didn't provide much for my Ss and she brought a a lot of negativity) but I was sad for my SS. It honestly may make things really hard dor a while but it will get easier. My own issue though is that I find myself trying to be mom even though I don't try to. Contact me if you want to chat!!

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Submitted by Finncole25 on Sat, 08/10/2013 - 8:18pm

This was a fear and a reality for me. My Ss is 13 now and he has been with us full time since BMs death. It can be fun at times....but a lot of the time it is stressful. Smile

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Submitted by Jelly2 on Sat, 08/10/2013 - 9:06pm

I would feel sad for skids, and sad that SD would be under my roof 365 days a year. But the sun would shine brighter without that pos con artist b*tch around!

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Submitted by sixteensmom on Tue, 08/13/2013 - 8:58am

wasn't her.
still paying alimony,
damn it.

it wasn't even someone she knew. it was someone that stole her car from a bar and rolled it.
poor bm had to walk home from the bar i guess, bad back and everything.

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Submitted by 5101520a on Mon, 12/16/2013 - 11:35am

I wouldn't wish that on anyone but when I have similar fantasies, I immediately pray for God to bless her and her family. Sometimes it's like chocking out a fur ball but I do it. BTW, as far as your sadness - you'll be fine.
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