His daughters broke us up!
I really enjoyed my ex’s daughters at first. His middle daughter age 14 “just didn’t like me” as ex put it. I tried to do things with them, help with chores, take them everywhere etc. I’m not filthy rich but I tried!
First problem was I noticed some makeup missing and clothes. I told the girls I had no issues with them using my things just as long as they asked first. So after I did laundry I’d put my belongings up. Makeup stayed missing I figured I lost it and moved on with my life
Second problem was my bf had an old box of condoms that we didn’t use. Some came up missing. Girls said they didn’t take them and he believed them. I was accused of cheating and he said I had to leave. We ended up reconciling. I had to be private detective and I found the missing condom in their room and everything that was stolen. I told my bf I found it. Well the girls must of knew I searched the room cause poof it was gone. His oldest daughter age 17 screamed at me and told me to stay out of her shit. I just have him my key back and left and went back to my house.
I had just found out I was pregnant the day before this incident! So of course I was going through millions of emotions and being crazy pregnant lady. I tried to apologize and I told him I was pregnant. He called me a liar and claims it’s not his kid. He blocked my number also so I can’t get in touch with him. Just this morning my tire was flat and it has a huge bolt in it. I can’t pin that on him but I wouldn’t be surprised.
Any advice on how to handle this situation?
Um, what!?
Um, what!?
This guy sounds like a grade A POS. His daughter(s) too, because OMG so much projection with the “Stay out of my shit” screaming.
My advice? Walk away from this trifecta clustercuss. Stay pregnant, or don’t, but definitely walk away.
Your ex is more to blame for
Your ex is more to blame for letting his daughters do this to his relationship than the girls are. The daugters are a product of his parenting. Take careful note of that when you consider what to do next. It seems he is not a great parent.
I know what I would do. I would cut ALL ties present, and future and not feel bad at all about it. You have seen a glimpse of your future. Is it what you imagined for yourself? Is it what you want?
You need to decide what is best for you though, none of us can tell you that.
Wait!! His daughters broke
Wait!! His daughters broke you up??? Nothing in your post reads as anything being their fault. I only read that your BF is a huge jerk.
Your BF accused you of cheating b/c some condom was apparently missing?? WTF?? That's enough for me to hit the road. And then he says your lying about being pregnant?
At 17 if my dad's girlfriend had gone through my "shit" in my room..... I would have also went off on her..........
Get out while you can.
Your BF accused you of
Exactly.
If OP knows in her heart that she didn’t cheat, yet these condoms go missing, that means only two things: OP’s BF tore them off, or one (if not both) of his daughters did - which brings a whole other dynamic for another time and place. As in, OP’s ex BF should have condoms readily available to his oldest daughter, no questions asked. If she, or the 14-year-old are secretly taking them, that’s another issue, on BF, not OP.
Also, good for one, or both, of his daughters for being proactive at practicing safe sex, even if that means ‘stealing’ condoms from dad.
You have some soul searching
You have some soul searching to do darlin'. I know this isn't easy and not what you expected. Whatever you decide I wish you all the best.
Best wishes
To you during this difficult time.
My best advice would be to find someone close to you that you can talk to, and someone whoses opinion you can trust who will listen and not try to sway you one way or the other. It has really helped me being on here and posting and reading. If you can talk it out, you can come to your own conclusions. Listen to your instincts, and really take some time to figure things out.
(((hugs to you)))
Don't get a paternity test.
Don't get a paternity test. Don't go for CS if you don't really need it. Take your baby and move far away, if you can. Move closer to family or friends if they're not nearby. Keep your baby safe from those crazies.
Wish I had done that.
I must say though, I'm
I must say though, I'm completely surprised by all of these hypocrites telling you to leave and keep your baby away from your BF. In one of my past posts I was accused of being an alienator and wanting to take my BF's money because I had thoughts of wanting to raise my child alone. My pregnancy was a surprise, just like yours. I was on birth control but still managed to get pregnant and found out while we were broken up. If I were you I wouldn't take the opinions of hypocrites on a forum too seriously. Only you know what the right thing to do is. Don't let people sway you one way or the other. Make the decision you know is right for you. It's your life and you deserve happiness.
It’s all good, I appreciate
It’s all good, I appreciate everyone’s different takes on the situation. #1 priority is the baby. If the ex wants to be on board then he’s going to have to make changes. I didn’t handle the situation appropriately by just walking out. But it was just the mama bear reaction he should of expected. After three kids he’s still as dumb as a box of rocks.
Guest he does not want a fourth child
Does not want to pay more CS. First of all his daughter did not break you up. Your SO wanting to believe, what he wants to believe, broke you up. You should be put first. Not his DD, That Him. Believe you are cheating in your own home, that on Him. Not wanting another child, that on Him. Not wanting to pay more CS that on Him.
you know how to pick them.
DO... NOT .... stay with this
DO... NOT .... stay with this guy and the progenny of the shallow and polluted genetic coupling with his X. Protect your child. Nail this POS asshole for a pile of CS, move far away, get a long distance visitation schedule and manage it diligently to minimize the influence that this POS and his toxic prior relationship spawn have on your child.
Or better yet... move and have zero contact with this POS and the the genetic cesspool he leads. CS be damned. He has taken his stance regarding you and your child. So keep your child as far from that effluent pond as necessary. He doesn't want to claim the baby... so make him live that decision.
Too bad you can't nail him for CS and keep your child far from that trainwreck of genetic disaster.
smh