Im visiting with my brother, his lovely wife and their fantastic kids, 17 & 12 yrs old. When going to bed I never worry about where my purse is even though there are 2 kids in the house. My brother left cash on the kitchen counter after going to the ATM. He came down this morning took what he needed and put the rest in a cup in plain sight on a shelf in the kitchen. No worries about his kids putting their hands in it.

My home with the filthy, lying, manipulating skids is a different story. My purse stays with me especially at night. DH occasionally keeps cash in a drawer but seems to count it everyday since the skids would have easy access to it.

I keep cash in a cubby in my closet with my undies, hidden in an envelope with the amount written on in and we add or subtract and write the new amount when we add or take cash. DH & I both have access to it. I once put it in his drawer he asked me to keep it in mine(more hidden and under my underpants). He obvs doesnt trust either but wont say it. 

3 times money has gone missing in that house. Before I lived there I left money in an envelope in the kitchen with some papers to see what would happen. Just a 20, a 5 and a few singles. The 20 went missing. Just wanted to see what kind of skids I was dealing with.

After moving in money went missing from our joint enevelope that was sometimes in his drawer. When I said the amt doesnt match what we had written he made an excuse about taking it. It was $15 missing.

Again we are short $15. The envelope only said $39. I went to add $200, there was only 24 so I wrote +200=239. Ill let DH figure out there is only $224.

Anyone else have this problem. What do you do when there are 4 skids all known to lie and all learned to steal, lie & manipulate from mom. BM often stole from her own parents, sister, DH & his family and even her own kids(my skids). She stole from purses, people's homes but also through manipulation. Oh poor me, give me money for the kids and it wasnt for the kids. She also fraudulently used other people's credit cards or checking accounts.

I feel so relaxed here away from the slids but I miss my DH soooo much. He's my rock except when it comes to skids.