Fed up!
I came across this website, and said to my self. Where have ya been all my life! I've had an on going issue with my husbands daughters mother. Iv'e been with my husband for 9 yrs and we have a 5 yr old. She refuses to let us see his daughter, but is always asking for money! Does anyone have an ideas for me, to try to get visitation rights, or even joint custody/full.. Please help this has been an on going issue for the past 7 yrs!
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No as of now there is not!
No as of now there is not! She's moves around to much, and the only way were in touch with her is by Facebook. The time's we have seen my SD has been at my husbands sisters house. We wanna do an dna test, but when we mention it she disappears! The SD has another mans last name. Any advice to give on what we can do? Every time we ask to see the SD her mother tells us she wants nothing to do with us and when SD is ready she'll let us know! But I don't believe anything BM has to say and doubt she's even telling her we are trying to be apart of her life.In desperate need of advice!
ever considered that maybe
ever considered that maybe its really not his kid if she's avoiding the question?
Trust me it has crossed my
Trust me it has crossed my mind but the hubby swears up and down it is his kid! My doubts are , my SD is 7 and she claims she can't do it on her own yet in 7 yrs she has never put him on child support and plus she has some other guys last name! This women has made my life a living hell from day 1. If it wasn't for my daughter I wouldn't make an effort to be in my SD life, but when u have a 5 yr child asking for there sibling all you wanna do is take action. I'm pissed that our money is good, but were not. I'm so frustrated!
Well if you do not have any
Well if you do not have any legal documents from the courts and SD has another man's last name. I would not pay any type of child support and I would tell BM to take a hike, until there is a DNA test done I would simply walk away. I mean you dont know this child as you never see her so I would distance myself.
If she really is his child and BM really needs money then she will get a lawyer and do things properly....
Z
True I wish it was easy! But
True I wish it was easy! But When SD was younger and BM was in the party stage of life she would dump the SD on us every weekend, with the excuse she had to work. Yet she would come to pick her up pretty much hung over! U thinks it's better to just let her take action, but what if this stupid #@$%& never comes to her scenes. What do I tell my daughter?
She may never come to her
She may never come to her senses however this young girl lives with her mom and from what you've written this is not going to change. Not all women should be mothers but it is what it is.
As for your daughter I know she will find this hard but...the truth is it really doesn't involve her and I dont mean to sound like a witch here but it's true this really isn't about her it's about your SD and her dad...
Hopefully things will change down the road...one can only hope they do...if need be get a lawyer and start the proceedings yourself and see where that leads you....
Z
Get a lawyer and start the
Get a lawyer and start the process. If you don't you will never know and you will always be questioning the paternity. Also, why keep paying if there is no legal obligation to do so? That can work against you in court as well. Get a lawyer and sue for visitation.
I agree with the others ths
I agree with the others ths HAS to go to mcourt period. I would tell bm tht you are not doing anything or givng anymore money til there are court orders. I would then have my dh if he is insistant on the kid being his get a lawyer and proceed from there if not then he can deal with everythng and I'm not in it inludng babby siitting or cookng or anythng. get it?