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What kind f mother doesn't want her kid on Christmas??????

poisonivy's picture

Submitted by poisonivy on Wed, 12/15/2010 - 1:25pm

Looking objectively at my own situation and those of some of my fellow STalkers, how is it that even during Christmas, the martyr BM's want nothing more than to pawn off the little angels and enjoy a kid-free holiday? What kind of mother does not want her own child around during the Holidays? Really?

DingBat is shipping skids down and is requesting that they not return until after New Years'....yes, requesting.

Loser.

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starfish's picture

Submitted by starfish on Wed, 12/15/2010 - 1:31pm

my BM..... she has a new bf, so she doesn't want the kids for christmas eve.... but it will be ok for dh & i to cart them back and forth so she can look like moty and have them for dinner at her moms then ship them right back to us.

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Submitted by purpledaisies on Wed, 12/15/2010 - 1:36pm

This is where I would say you have them these days and I have them these days that is the was it will be according to the CO! I wouldn't be carting them around just so can be MOTY nor would I keep them just b/c she doesn't want them.

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Submitted by purpledaisies on Wed, 12/15/2010 - 4:32pm

Just do it or refuses to have anything to with it of he doesn't. I know I seem harsh in a lot of ways but really I just tell dh that it is not fair for him or the kid for bm to pull this crap and the more you let the more she will.

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Submitted by SteppingUp on Wed, 12/15/2010 - 1:42pm

Same here. BM is "letting" us having SS3 from Wednesday night through Monday morning, and she won't see him until Monday night. We didn't ask, she "offered". So of course we'll take it! Can't imagine not seeing my kid on Christmas Eve or Christmas Day when you live in the same town.

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Submitted by Willow2010 on Wed, 12/15/2010 - 1:42pm

My Christmas is going to be a catch 22. She actually wants SS for Christmas. SS has only been back to see BM two times in the past year. Both times he came back acting like a major turd and starts his..."I'm sick...I hurt...I stumped my toe..." routine.

I hate it but I will get my house back to normal for about 6 days. Yall all join me in the happy dance!!!

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Submitted by onebright1 on Wed, 12/15/2010 - 1:52pm

Ha ha ha Willow, when I first glanced "Yall all join me in the happy dance!!!"
I thought it said
"Yall all join me in Therapy "
I did a double take and read it sloooooowly after that Biggrin

and I dont get my bd for Christmas this year Sad

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Submitted by jojo68 on Wed, 12/15/2010 - 1:53pm

Our BM...she never wants to see her daughter...cuts into her party time. I don't think BF daughter has seen her mother in 2 months now.

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Submitted by Willow2010 on Wed, 12/15/2010 - 1:57pm

"Yall all join me in Therapy "
+++++++++++++++++
LOL!! If SS does not graduate and get out of my house by JUNE, yall may have to join me in Therapy.

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Submitted by mom2five on Wed, 12/15/2010 - 2:03pm

My BM. She hasn't seen her kids the last two Christmases. Supposedly, they are going to see her for a couple of days this year. I'll believe it when I see it.

I have no idea how she justifies it. But she is one of those people that can rationalize anything.

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Submitted by TheBrightSide on Wed, 12/15/2010 - 2:06pm

Question: What kind f mother doesn't want her kid on Christmas??????

Answer: Try googling the word "narcisist". You will find the answer.

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Submitted by DaizyDuke on Wed, 12/15/2010 - 2:10pm

This just blows my mind! As much as I hate our BM's and their drama and antics, I do have to say they have NEVER tried to pawn skids off on Holidays... it is always an unspoken definate that we will see the skids at some point, but that for the majority of the time they will be with their mothers.

I can't imagine not seeing my son at all on Christmas???

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Submitted by overit2 on Wed, 12/15/2010 - 2:17pm

Normally on Christmas my ex and I split the day a bit. They are with me Christmas Eve, we have a nice dinner, and I give them a new pair of Pj's to wear to bed.

They go off to bed, I light a fire in fireplace, open some wine and put some music and wrap the presents. Surely bf will be there this year Smile He is going to help me cook for the next day. I'm sure he'll split his day as well but it will be all set up according to what BM wants schedule wise of course.

Christmas morning I spend w/the boys...their dad will be picking them up at noon for a few hrs and then they are back w/me for Christmas dinner. We did the same Thanksgiving.

Now New years-that is my day Smile He can pick them up New Years Eve and return Sunday...I WILL do something exciting and let my hair down. That's my one Holiday a year for myself to let lose. I pretty much have the boys w/me every Holiday- 4th, Labor Day, Halloween, Spring Break, winter Break, summer break.... all of them. So yeah I like to be selfish one holiday a year Smile

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Submitted by hbell0428 on Wed, 12/15/2010 - 2:18pm

well SD13 Lives with us; and BM sees her maybe once a week - NEVER WEEKENDS. So, I have yet to hear when she is going to have her during this Holiday. I am NOT holding my breath

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Submitted by onebright1 on Wed, 12/15/2010 - 2:19pm

This will be the first year in 20+ years I havent had a young one home on Christmas Sad Last year was the first Christmas after the divorce and I had my BD, this year we switch and her Dad gets her........will be strange, but I will get her back the day after Christmas. CO gives NCP even numbered Christmases. And just gotta go with what it says. Not gonna be one of those BMs that scheme, conive, and plot. It is what it is.

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Submitted by overit2 on Wed, 12/15/2010 - 2:21pm

You know onebright...awww...I guess kids and young ones do make Christmas don't they?

You know our CO has that odd/even for all Holidays-well my ex isnt' interested in doing any of the through the year Holidays or split vacation/break weeks...but for Christmas, Thanksgiving, we're supposed to also have odd/even thing-we just never worked it that way--kind of try to split the day.

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Submitted by onebright1 on Wed, 12/15/2010 - 2:39pm

I think he would work with me on that splitting the day deal but we dont live close enough for that to be feasable. Sooooo I will just suck it up. Same as he had to last year.
I think I will just pretend its not Christmas til she gets home Wink
My BF doesnt have his kids first week of break either , soooo, we may just snuggle in for the day and stay in our jammies and be slackers Smile

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Submitted by overit2 on Wed, 12/15/2010 - 2:56pm

YES Be slackers!!! I vote for that! lol

You know I just complain and moan about Holidays being stressfull and everything that has to be done, the shopping, the arrangements, talking to family about schedules, all of that..but then my bf's says I seem to kind of thrive on it and says...are you SURE you dont' like the Holidays?

So I just blurted back : Baby, it's a love/hate relationship! LOL

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Submitted by onebright1 on Thu, 12/16/2010 - 10:41am

Oh just come out of the closit Overit and admit it Biggrin Dont be ashamed, I am a Black Friday shopper and proud of it!!

overit2's picture

Submitted by overit2 on Thu, 12/16/2010 - 11:19am

LOL-I Can't, I'm not ready yet to come out Smile

OH...Black Friday-it's a hate/hate on that one for me. I do and will not go out that day.

You know what though? I realize I STILL spend about 8-10hrs researching online before purchasing....and that stresses me out trying to choose stuff for everyone. I'm in a total pickle about the bf's parents still...clueless!
I still have to finish my shopping online this week-and perhaps ONE trip to Kohl's, one to dollar store for wrapping paper and cards.

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Submitted by onebright1 on Thu, 12/16/2010 - 11:25am

Yea, I still have to do the wrapping paper trip and still havent got my parents a thing. Figure I will just stroll the mall while BD is at her dads and look for something for them then.

My GF and I havent missed a Black Friday in like 7 years. Last year my arm ended up in a sling cuz I got trampled! It was crazy and I LOVE IT!

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Submitted by overit2 on Thu, 12/16/2010 - 11:38am

You got trampled? OH dear Lord!! LOL---wow! See, I used to suffer from very bad panic attacks back when I first got divorced...certain places bring those memories back and can trigger small ones-so I tend to avoid very big crowds, traffic, rushing, lines....it's not good for my mental health-I've had serious breakdowns...one day, at Walmart (hence why I havne't been there in years)...it got so bad, it got hot, the voices on the intercoms, the crowds...I fell on the floor covering my ears telling them to shut up and crying haha...Must have looked right out of the loony bin...my mom had to rush me out and leave everything there. I couldn't cope.

UNLESS-it's a kick a** concert of dance club...and if there's adult beverages involved I'm fine with it! lol

But yeah I'm dreading the mall thing...I may have to do that this wknd to get it all over with. I mean bf and I have been waiting for a wknd together (just Sat/sun) for almost 2 months-and I'll be spending a good portion of that time shopping? Ugg...unless I want to venture out Friday evening w/my kids and get it done then, Hey since you're a shopper..this time of year? Better sales on Friday evenings, or Saturdays...or about the same?

I'm thinking of heading to Kohls mainly-I'm dreading the $ store more then anything.

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Submitted by skylarksms on Wed, 12/15/2010 - 2:45pm

We have skids - well actually only SS probably - from day school gets out until 10 a.m. Xmas morning. Opposite years, we get them (him) at 10 a.m. Xmas morning through the rest of school break.

My DS20 has to work Sad We are trying to schedule some time to get to my parents' house.

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Submitted by Elizabeth on Wed, 12/15/2010 - 3:02pm

Not Christmas, but a couple of years ago (when we still had custody of SD), BM chose to NOT have her on Mother's Day. That one still blows my mind.

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Submitted by happymostly on Wed, 12/15/2010 - 3:23pm

bm said the same thing, she said that dh can have sd for the whole xmas break if he wanted (granted he hasnt seen sd in a month due to him moving away to find a better job and us not having any extra money for gas money) but she KEEPS asking dh when hes going to be able to pick her up, already told her we cant have her the whole xmas break because we wont be able to watch her the whole time, but every day she keeps asking. Im starting to think shes getting tired of sd and doesnt want to have her any extra days where she has to be with her all day lol.

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Submitted by forever2 on Wed, 12/15/2010 - 4:14pm

Starfish, we are twins. Our BM has a new BF too, and now her kid is an afterthought. She makes our schedule based on her social life, and tells us that we cannot make changes without giving her ONE MONTH notice. Bitch. So, per her schedule, we had skid on Christmas and she had him on Christmas Eve...so nope, not a consideration for her not to have her kid on Christmas. But then, she gets a better offer for a party with BF on Christas Eve, so she changes our schedule, WITH 2 WEEKS NOTICE, and now we have skid Christmas Eve (sucks because BF and I both love Christmas Eve) and she will pick him up at whatever time pleases her Christmas day...or better yet demand that bf drop skid off at her house. All we will get out of the day is a peaceful dinner together...and I will make the biggest toast ever that holiday 2010 is over at last. Only six more after this one until he is 18!!!!!