Damned no matter what I do !@#$%^&
It just feels like a now win situation with SD25.
BM can admit to breaking up her family, twice, for infidelity and she still comes out smelling like a rose.
I call SD out on her verbal barrage lobbed at me and I am stinking of insulting parent and being passive aggressive.
Just because her BM lets her lash out at her, am I suppose to take it?
Is it too much to ask for a modicum of respect for our place as parents?
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No, you should ask for
No, you should ask for respect AS ANY PERSON should...period. I hope this is not happening in your house or through calls...if so, stop it now.
Thank you for your
Thank you for your comments.
No SD is not at home. She sent a couple of emails after our weekly phone call where I, short of time and space as usual, wanted to catch up on something that she was going through but I managed to do it poorly (that is my fault).
But her emails have me on a roller-coaster ride, the first one 3 reasons she's furious with me, the second one an apology for the harshness but not for the things she said, the third one a plea asking if I had gotten the other two (I didn't respond cuz I needed time and she had recognized I would) but she couldn't take not knowing if I "hated her and had cut her off" or if I was just taking time to process. So silly me, I responded with a short email where I apologized for my part but also told her that I found her "tantrum" to be "unacceptable"...well, the fourth email now she's offended that I am telling her that what she feels is unacceptable - yet I had been very careful to say that it was the behavior, and not the feelings, that I found unacceptable.
I realize she's just throwing a hizzy fit, it's just that it invokes so many years of grief with my place as a "step" parent and not a "real" parent.