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Submitted by Stepmonster1981 on Tue, 07/01/2014 - 11:00am

I have left very little background out. I found a place I can vent and be me.
When SO and I started I thought he still love BM because he talked about her so much, at least 30 times daily. We had huge fights about it. He got better, I found steptalk and read and read pages of things I had been thru that other people were and are going thru. It helped me so much. So thank you!

Really SO?!? That was a dick move!

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Submitted by Stepmonster1981 on Mon, 06/30/2014 - 10:10pm

BM likes to talk through SD as I posted before she always talks to SO thru SD. I have listened to SO bitch and moan that BM can't do it and how wrong it is. Well tonight SO talked to BM thru SD right in front of me. He kept going and going so I quietly said "SO stop doing that". So he stopped. Gets off the phone and I say " oh it's ok for you to talk to BM thru SD but when BM does it it's wrong and ordered she can't do that" he got so mad I gave him the silent treatment the rest of the 30 min car ride. He drops me off at my car amd I speed away. SO comes in and is all over me.

I swear BM knows when we are too happy and puts a stop to it right quick!

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Submitted by Stepmonster1981 on Fri, 06/27/2014 - 5:30pm

We are kid free for the night.(rarely happens) DD went to a friends for a sleepover and SD is with BM to attend a wedding even tho its our weekend. BM sent SO an email on Tues asking to change weekends. SO emailed back stating his parents are coming from out of town tmrw and we worked it out just so SD would be with us. We also made plans to do a ton of family activities with the grandparents. This has been planned for months. SO told BM she could have SD until Sunday and then he will be picking her up as we have plans. then BAM! BM says nope the wedding is out of town and on Sunday.

Wait what?!? Now I'm the bad guy wtf!!

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Submitted by Stepmonster1981 on Mon, 06/23/2014 - 10:02pm

Had SD7 this weekend, got her hair chopped. Goes back to BM today and SO gets his nightly phone call at 745pm. BM chirping in he back ground talking thru SD (put in CO BM is not allowed to talk to SO thru SD) BM continues SO tells SD she doesn't have to repeat it. Then the convo changes to the nickname I call SD ( tried at dinner yesterday to figure out a nickname for SD seeing how DD has one, SD laughing says call me buttface. We all made a joke and I said no lol) fast forward to Sd being with BM crazy pants.

What would you do?!?!?!

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Submitted by Stepmonster1981 on Sat, 06/21/2014 - 7:27pm

SD7 takes 45 min every night and every morning brushing her hair and then still needs help doin it. She has long, thick kind of curly hair. When my DD8 could brush her hair I cut it off. My thinking is if you can't take care of it you don't get to have long hair. SO is now in the same mind frame. He gave SD7 4 days to brush her hair in 10 min. She couldn't do it. He wants to take SD7 tmrw and cut her hair off to just below her ears. SD7 is soooo happy about it. However BM is going to flip her damn lid and go bat shit crazy pants.

VENT!

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Submitted by Stepmonster1981 on Thu, 06/19/2014 - 12:43pm

SO and I have been together 1 yr he has 1 daughter7 I have 1 dd8. My DD7 lives with us fulltime. SD7 50% if BM isn't being her usual shitbag crazy pants.