Bonus Mom life is messy, its hectic, its emotional, its difficult, and there are some days where I feel like I wanna throw in the towel and stop caring so much about how a child that is not my bio child grows up, but that is not how I was raised. I came from a blended family and my Step Mother never made me feel unloved or unwanted, she and my mother got along very well and co-parenting was easy for my parents...I always said to myself if I ever end up with a man who has a child, i want to be just like my step mom.