"... can you see why I'm upset?"

Um, no DH. I'M UPSET!

DH admits his feelings are hurt. But his point is that he always includes my kids, that there's a double standard around here, that I put out bad vibes to ss too...

Let's look at that DH:

You always include my kids? Well, we certainly didn't do a "family" think for SS's bday last week when you took him out and spend $100 on dinner and peewee golf. His response? "The kids weren't here". Oh ya, DH, well, guess what? SS wasn't here today either when I took MY kids to the amusement park.

Double Standard? Absolutely! I bend over backwards for SS to make him feel included but now I've recently realized that everyone always has and that's part of the problem. DH says, well, his mom was gone for 7 years. So that's going to be the excuse for the rest of his life? We spoil him, shower him with things we can't afford and he still wants more? Yes. there is a double standard and I'm not participating in it anymore!

I put out bad vibes to SS? REally? Well, guess what? When a 13 year old tells me he hates me, doesn't behave appropriately, I'm going to tell him to knock it off and straighten up. And when he doesn't, I'm going to walk over to him and tell him to look at me while I'm speaking to him. And when he interrupts me, I'm going to tell him he can go to his room until he wants to behave. I'm an adult. This is my house and if my VIBES turn bad because of a child inside it, then I'm going to correct it.

SHEEEESH!

Can you tell I am mid-argument with DH. He's now vacuming the car or something.