This is my first blog entry and I really just need somewhere to vent and I believe this is the perfect place. So BF and I had the kids for few days and yesterday was their last day. BM decided that there was no need for us to drop them off, so she said she would pick them up. Which is fine by me since freaking gas prices are crazy and she lives like about an hour away. She calls BF and tells him that she's outside. FutureSD3 is sitting in my lap holding her favorite toy that she owns at our house and asks if she can take the toy with her and of course I approve of it, because I don't really care where the toy is as long as fSD is happy. We meet the BM outside and I notice right away that she's being bitchy towards BF when I am around like always, I just let it go and I am just talking to fSD not even paying attention to her. Out of the blue she tells fSD she can't take the toy with her, and fSD asks why and her Mother's reply was "Because I don't want any of your daddy's toys at my house." By now, fSD is crying her eyes out and I am still holding her, BF steps in and mentions that she should just let her take it and BM blows up and says, that she doesn't want to think about bringing toys back that belong to him when it's time for fSD to come over here. One thing I didn't understand is that she already has some of our movies, clothes, Birthday toys, Xmas toys that we have bought fSD and we have never ever told BM that she had to bring them back to our house. We don't really care where the toys are, it's not like we would run out of toys at our house. Our house is like freaking Toys R Us II. So back to the story, I am standing there trying to calm fSD down and nothing seems to work because she really wanted to take that toy with her, and I look at BM and I said "Why don't you just let her take it?" and she looks me straight in the eyes and says "Are you her mother? You have no say in this." Blah Blah Blah. That was it, I lost it. I looked at her as she was bitching at me and this was my exact reply, "No I am not her Mother, but do you really want to start an arguement infront of your daughter like that? Why don't you just freaking grow up!" She started to say a few more words after that and BF told her to shut it, she took fSD from me and I just walked back into the house. I was so heated. I was glad that for once I stood up to her, but I kept thinking that maybe I shouldn't have and whatnot said anything. BF comes in the house and freaks out on me saying "Don't you ever get involved with this like that again!" At that point I was already upset about BM that I just screamed back at him saying "You know I AM INVOLVED in this, especially when BM starts to talk about me to you or infront of your DD!" And it's true, her talking about me automatically involves me, but never once have I ever said anything to her about it til yesterday, even though it wasn't about ME, it was about fSD. And it's not like I said "Stop being a B**** and let her take the damn toy." I simply just asked a simple question, and she decided to take it to a whole different level. I still kept it all in a nice way, except the "Why don't you grow up" remark. But seriously, give me a break. BF constantly asks me why I never ever stand up for myself in GENERAL, and when I finally decide that I should stand up to BM, he shuts me down for standing up for myself and his DD. Was I really wrong about this? It's been bothering me all night long because I kept thinking that maybe I went too far or that maybe I should've just stayed out of it all?

One thing I forgot to mention: BF didn't come back with the toy, so I guess BM let fSD take it with her.