Crazy night at the ER last night
What a day we had yesterday! FDH and I decided to meet for lunch and when he got to the restaurant he wasn't feeling well, heart racing, very odd. We waited and it got worse so we went to the ER. They had him on a table and hooked up to an EKG in minutes - I was really impressed with how efficient they were.
We were there for several hours and they almost admitted him but decided to let me take him home once the meds they gave him to bring his heart rate and blood pressure down started working. It was terrifying for both of us - I am still grateful to God that it was not more serious. He went to a Cardiologist today and they did a bunch of tests and have changed his meds. FIngers crossed everything will be ok.
What was weirder than all that was when we got home he started going through his stuff (keepsakes, jewelry, etc) and telling me what went to his kid, what I could have, etc. It was fucking surreal - he even put together a simple will just in case this happened again and something worse happened. It was nuts.
One thing that irriated the ever-loving-shit out of me was this...he has this necklace he wears everyday, without exception. It is not valuable but it is so "him". He made a big point of telling me to give it to his kid. If something ever happened to him I probably would give it to her at some point but honestly not right away. It is a symbol of him and I dont think I would want to part with it immediately.
I just could not believe we were having the 'death talk' and his child was still bugging the crap out of me.
Sigh...
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So sorry i know how ou feel
So sorry i know how ou feel asvmy dh was just in there about a month or so ago. It is very scary when its the heart. I hope everything works out and he is ok.
I know it's creepy having to
I know it's creepy having to have those conversations, but having been thru it I urge everyone to.
I'm soooo glad my first DH was very clear on what he wanted (care wise, resusitation wise, etc) and what he didn't. I asked him to write all of those things down and we put them in formal, legal documentation. I'm glad we did that because when the "end" came his mom (who is by nature a bully steamroller) had different ideas as to how things should be. If she could have called the shots, she would have kept him on life support til the end of days (which was NOT his wish).
It's hard enough to have to deal with a spouse/SO being gravely or terminally ill. Toss in there the conflict of how the medical care should be and you've got yourself a circus.
I was also glad that due to the nature of my career, I was well-acquainted with ALL of the physicians and nurses involved in his care. They pretty quickly figured out that they were to talk to ME and ME only because the last things physicians/caregivers what to have to deal with is conflict within the family when a loved one is critically or terminally ill.