Ugh--SD kicked out of school as of today
Well, we just found out that because SD is no longer living in her town, (less than 24 hours) she can no longer attend school there. They will not even allow her to finish out the next 5 days before February school break. We have to go to the school on Monday and get all of her transcript information, and then go to our town school, and enroll her there.
Yesterday we were told they would let her finish out the YEAR there, and now they won't even let her finish out a week. Poor kid, this totally sucks....
I now need to call the school and figure out what exactly we need from them to enroll her....
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thats bs
why then were u told yesterday that she could finish out the year? obviously, its not good to transfer her midyear. and, i know this wont happen, but what if the change in custody wouldnt happen? i cant believe they wouldnt let her stay the rest of the year or at least until custody is established. ???
poor kid. all this going on and now she cant even finish the school year w her friends.
"Given the right reasons and the right two people, marriage is a wonderful way of experiencing your life."
~the late great George Carlin
b/c the woman yesterday didn't know wtf she was talking about
and didn't have the authority to make that assertion, but she did it anyway. I feel terrible, I really do, I can't believe they wouldn't at LEAST let her make this change over the school vacation, which begins a WEEK from now, it's ridiculous.
This is apparently what we get for being upfront and trying to do the right thing, if we hadn't told the school what was going on, it wouldn't have come to this.
Grrrr.... I just called the school here, we have NOTHING we need to enroll her!!!
"Insanity: doing the same thing over and over again and expecting different results." Albert Einstein
call the superintendent
there has to be something they can do. rules can bend when they need to be...
"Given the right reasons and the right two people, marriage is a wonderful way of experiencing your life."
~the late great George Carlin
I will tell FH
to do that, once again, I'm nobody in this situation :S
"Insanity: doing the same thing over and over again and expecting different results." Albert Einstein
jeez...
I guess you should just be thankful that your SD is WANTING to come live with you, hopefully this will make things a little easier for all of you. I can't imagine if she didn't want to come live with you AND she had to change schools...that would be unimaginable! I'm so sorry to hear that things are going so rough at the moment. You ARE doing the right thing! Don't forget that!
thanks stepmom929
Sd was prepared to switch schools, but we were not prepared for this, especially since yesterday we told her the exact opposite, which is what they told us yesterday, that she could finish out the year if she wanted to, and then out of the blue do a 180, that poor kid won't even know when she walks out today it will be for the last time, and we've tried SO hard to prepare her and support her through all this, and we get undermined by others, it just makes me so angry...
Thank you for the support, I wish FH was reading here, he's having a tough time, and the stress is so hard for him..... I'll convey the msg though!
"Insanity: doing the same thing over and over again and expecting different results." Albert Einstein
If she isn't enrolled elsewhere and nothing has been changed
Legally, I don't think they can do that if it's a public school. Is it?
I would definitely call the superintendent. Perhaps this was instigated by BM and she is using the school to get you to bring her back?
"Om Tare Tutare Ture Mama Ayurpunye Jnana Putin Kuru Svaha"
~Sita Tara Mantra
It is a public school
I sent FH the contact information, We were told we could pay 100 a day for her to continue there. WTF, FH doesn't even take that home....
"Insanity: doing the same thing over and over again and expecting different results." Albert Einstein
But if you don't have a full custody agreement
I think they are setting themselves up for a law suit. They can't allow you to take her out of school without proof you are allowed to enroll her else where, can they?
"Om Tare Tutare Ture Mama Ayurpunye Jnana Putin Kuru Svaha"
~Sita Tara Mantra
im at a loss on that too sita
bc like i said, what if BM would get custody? (which we know wont happen but they dont know that) how can they justify kicking her out of school w no custody established as of rite now?
"Given the right reasons and the right two people, marriage is a wonderful way of experiencing your life."
~the late great George Carlin
the whole thing
sounds to me like a case of "the right hand doesn't have a clue what the left hand is doing"!
Keep pluggin away NS, unfortunately things like this will come up and you will be forced to reason with idiots.... BUT I have every confidence you will come out on top!
Update, took it one step further called DOE
and called the state DOE and spoke with an attorney in their legal department. The school has NO right to terminate her schooling without at minimum a hearing, and given that this is a temporary arrangement which will not be finalized until the court date is complete, they are obligated by law to provide her schooling.
The attorney was IMMENSELY helpful, forwarded me the appropriate statutes, and said in no uncertain terms should we take her out before the end of the school year, nor should we have to. HA!
I wish there were more people helpful and as clear cut as this attorney out there, hell, maybe I should hire HIM for this custody BS!!!
Thanks for the support ladies, you guys keep my gutsy "question it always" nature all fueled up and ready to fight!!!!
"Insanity: doing the same thing over and over again and expecting different results." Albert Einstein
i knew it!!!!
"given that this is a temporary arrangement which will not be finalized until the court date is complete, they are obligated by law to provide her schooling."
exactly what i said...gosh im so smart
seriously, so very glad u found this out!
score one for the good guys today!
"Given the right reasons and the right two people, marriage is a wonderful way of experiencing your life."
~the late great George Carlin
It's gonna be funny when we go in there on Monday
and they expect us to sign withdrawal papers, and we refuse, present them with the paperwork, and tell the to call THAT lawyer! LOL....
You ARE so smart Bella!!!!
"Insanity: doing the same thing over and over again and expecting different results." Albert Einstein
YEAh for you!!!
i knew you'd come out ahead of the game!!!
the thing is,
they have to do whats rite for the kid. and pulling her out of school bc of something like this and when she is not yet enrolled elsewhere is NOT whats best for her.
"Given the right reasons and the right two people, marriage is a wonderful way of experiencing your life."
~the late great George Carlin
exactly bella
we're not asking for special bussing or any sort of special dispensation, hell, BM still lives there, still pays property taxes (in theory anyway) so wtf is the difference?
Assholes....
"Insanity: doing the same thing over and over again and expecting different results." Albert Einstein
Not only that...
most schools do their state funding assesment in October, so the state has already PAID the school for her to be there since she was a student in October...
"For every ailment under the sun....There is a remedy, or there is none;
If there be one, try to find it; If there be none, never mind it." ~ W.W. Bartley
I smell a rat!
That school sounds screwy. I wonder if BM is behind this at all or it that's just it - the school is retarded.
When I taught (just subbed, ALOT), I always thought it was ridiculous for parents to move kids around halfway through the year, but inevitably every Easter or Spring Break there would be kids who left or kids who just started because their living situation changed. And they would transfer to schools just 30 minutes or less away - always within the same county. Back and forth, back and forth. That had to be so awful for the children and it for sure wasn't the school that required it. Pretty much every school in this county is practically stepping all over the others trying to get students to boost enrollment. They'll let anyone who can show up attend their schools.
I'm so glad she gets to stay. It is much better for her to start at a new school at the beginning of a new school year.
I'm actually reluctant (for once) to pin this on the BM
BM has been up in arms about SD staying in that school, so I really can't see her facilitating getting her dropped from it. We've been protesting b/c although the school in our district is not rated as well, it is a brand new school as of this fall that MILLIONS were spent on, and has tons more programs than her school does. Basically the caveat with the school in our district is that the good, academically achieving kids get the attention, and they don't have enough academic CPR for the kids who are failing. I'm not worried about that though, in our situation, we are ALL ABOUT school in our house, and don't expect the school to be the ones soley responsible for SD's success, so she'll be fine.
And I agree, it is not ideal to have her switch now, not at all, even the guidance counselor (originally) said that SD should finish the year there. Though it would make FH, my and the grandparent's life difficult, driving her to and from school every day, we were all willing to make that work for her if needed, and then they turn around and say the opposite...
And like you said, we are not only in the same county, but literally the next town over, it's insane to make her do this now, especially with NO notice whatsoever!
"Insanity: doing the same thing over and over again and expecting different results." Albert Einstein