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Submitted by newmommy05 on Mon, 09/16/2013 - 5:03pm

I'm trying to come to the conclusion whether or not this is a big deal..I saw on our shared computer's history that DH has been looking at pics of BM on fb which led to another site that had her "modeling". It wasn't pornographic but some were a bit racy with her straddling a rock in a very low cut top and boots. It just makes me uneasy. I've written before on my blog about how DH emotionally cheated on me with her at the beginning of our relationship. I guess it's still in the back of my mind. How do I get past this???

How to disengage as a custodial SAHM?

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Submitted by newmommy05 on Mon, 09/16/2013 - 12:08pm

I know this topic has been discussed many times but if anyone has any tips you could give me as to "do's" and "don'ts" that would be helpful. I'm currently in a situation where DH works literally all the time and I am stuck watching SS9 who is a huge handful. He lies, steals, and requires attention like you would give a 3 year old. I am close to my breaking point. BM has basically given up on SS and says she can't handle him anymore and only sees him one weekend every 2 months or so. DH has pretty much given me all control concerning discipline and other things that pertain to SS.

DH is driving me nuts!!!

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Submitted by newmommy05 on Fri, 08/23/2013 - 11:50am

I am a SAHM to DD1 and SS9. I also work for family business from the house. At the beginning of the summer, BM decided to let DH keep SS for at least 1 school year, perhaps even for the forseeable future. This has never happened before. DH has never had to take care of SS for more than 1 day by himself, I've always been there to help him. He was so happy that SS will be living with us now. He also promised that he would spend more time with us and that he would do that majority of the parenting of SS when he was home.

Can't take it anymore!!!

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Submitted by newmommy05 on Tue, 05/28/2013 - 6:01pm

Is SS coming or isn't he? Are we getting him full-time or just the summer? Argh! I'm soooo sick of BM's back and forth, its actually driving me nuts! I already have anxiety, but I think I'm on the verge of a panic attack or something. I really don't know what to do about it. For those that have been following my situation, you know what's going on. BM has once again decided that she wants to keep SS. This has been going on for at least 3 years. He goes through a rough patch and BM wants to get rid of him and send him here to live with his dad.

DH Makes me so Angry

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Submitted by newmommy05 on Fri, 05/24/2013 - 12:10pm

If you read my last blog, I had wrote that BM had decided that SS should live with us because she can't handle him. But of course she's been flopping back and forth about it. First it was, he will miss me too much, then it was his grandparent's will miss him, now the real truth: She's scared she will no longer be allowed to live in the 3 bedroom government-assistance housing they live in now. She's like they will find out, then make me move. Well shouldn't DH just have said: Sorry but that is not our concern. If you were actually worried, you would go get a job.

From Zero to Custodial stepmom in 2 months..Need advice pls!

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Submitted by newmommy05 on Mon, 05/06/2013 - 11:14am

To be honest I am very overwhelmed and scared and anxious and stressed. BM is having us draft up something legal and binding to have SS8 move to live with us instead of with her. She told me at pick up and drop off this past weekend that she cannot handle SS anymore and thinks he would be better off with us. Do I want him to come live with us? Not really. Do I think he's better off with us? Probably. Right now Im wrestling between my selfish side and my underlying desire to keep my own "family" together (DH and DD1).

I hate how I feel when I find out SS might come live with us

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Submitted by newmommy05 on Fri, 04/26/2013 - 2:17pm

Its almost clockwork. It happens about 2 or 3 times a year. BM (who usually is fine to deal with, as we don't see her or talk to her much at all), decides that she can't handle SS8 and wants DH to take him. DH of course jumps at the opportunity to "fix" his son. It usually doesn't end up happening. The only time it did was last summer and we had SS stay with us for about 6 weeks. It wasn't too bad. It took some getting used to but I even kind of missed him when he left. But its the initial shock that just gets to me. DH doesn't tell me either that he and BM have been discussing this.

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