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O/T: Husbands Female Friend

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Submitted by mamacat_30 on Fri, 09/28/2012 - 10:35am

This is really off topic, but it's been driving me nuts and I don't really have anywhere else to take it, so I turn to you all. My DH has a friend who is a woman. He has known her for years, years before we even met. But he hadn't talked to or seen her for nearly 10 years, she was involved in a scene that he left behind when he met me. They friended each other on Facebook about a year and a half ago, no big deal, he has lots of friends on Facebook.

How is school not priority #1?

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Submitted by mamacat_30 on Thu, 11/11/2010 - 12:37pm

Okay, so every year I tell myself I'm not going to get involved in the S-Kids school, that there is nothing I can can do anyway and I shouldn't let it bother me.....never happens. SD14 has a D- in a class she is taking for the THIRD time! All together she has 3 F's (Chemistry, History and P.E.), 2 D- (Algebra, Spanish) and a D in English. This has been going on since the 5th grade with her. I can't understand why her mother lets it continue! I have brought up tutoring to BM hundreds of times but she doesn't do anything about it.

O/T My "Home Cooked" meal

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Submitted by mamacat_30 on Sun, 10/31/2010 - 12:35am

Tonight's dinner: Lemon pepper pork tenderloin, broccoli and cauliflower, garlic mashed potatoes.

Good meal for our family of five. But it got me thinking....The pork was bought marinaded, only had to pop it in the oven for an hour, vegetables...self steaming bag in the microwave, potatoes...bought already made only had to heat (microwave again). Kinda puts a damper on a "home cooked" meal.

So, I feel like I cheated. I could mash my own potatoes, it just takes a lot longer, but they taste better. But with the time I saved we were able to fit in family poker night!

O/T Skinny Jeans

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Submitted by mamacat_30 on Fri, 08/27/2010 - 11:07am

Ok, so I know we have members from around the world, I live in America, California, Southern California. Not sure what the fashions are elsewhere, but here we have "skinny jeans". Everyone wants skinny jeans, skin tight skinny jeans. I DON'T LIKE SKINNY JEANS! When my SD12 wears skinny jeans with skinny tank tops or tight shirts it's almost like she's wearing a full body leotard! Just because her skin isn't showing doesn't make it appropriate, does it? I don't know, maybe I'm just a little old fashioned....or prudish....

Do we really ever get rid of BM?

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Submitted by mamacat_30 on Sun, 07/18/2010 - 9:01pm

DH and I are counting down the years until the last kid is 18, we have 7 more years to go. I know that DH will always be dad and we are always going to be there for the kids, and I am all for that. But DH and I have this fantasy that once the youngest turns 18 we will never have to deal with or interact with BM again. I would love for this to be true, but I am afraid it will not be. For those that have been with the kids as they all turned 18 and eventually became adults, does BM fade away? Or does the madness continue?

When do they become your stepkids?

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Submitted by mamacat_30 on Sat, 07/17/2010 - 1:06am

At what point did you guys start to consider the kids your "stepkids"? Did it happen the day you got married? Or before? DH and I have only been married for a year, but we have been together going on 9 years. The kids and I started referring to each other as steps years ago and all our friends and family accepted it as well. I've always had a pretty good relationship with my S-Kids so I never minded the title of Stepmom, and I guess I have had a sense of being a "motherly figure" to them from the beginning. So what do you think the bond is that connects you to your S-kids is?

Appropriate undergarments for SD14

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Submitted by mamacat_30 on Thu, 07/15/2010 - 12:55am

I was sorting some of the laundry that S-Kids left from the weekend and find a pair of thong panties. My first reaction was of disbelief. I don't know, maybe I'm just becoming prudish as I gracefully age, but 14 seems young for thongs and padded bras. What bothers me is that BM has to be buying these for her! Why do they want to grow up so fast? I try to reason with myself that it's only clothes, and clothes don't make a person, blah, blah, blah.

We have slain the beast that is the Child Support office!

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Submitted by mamacat_30 on Mon, 07/12/2010 - 12:58pm

So in my previous post I shared with you all about CSSD placing a levy on our bank account. They placed the levy on Saturday, so this morning we go down to the local CSSD office and say "What the heck? We haven't missed a payment on support or arrears in the last 4 years!!". The CS officer says "Well if that's true then they would not have levied your account", she was not believing us at all. So then she looks up DH's payment record in the system, and lo and behold, she confirms we have been faithfully paying our obligation for years, her tone changes completely.

CS office Froze our Bank Account

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Submitted by mamacat_30 on Sat, 07/10/2010 - 10:14pm

I get a text alert this morning that my bank account balance is low, so I check on line, my balance is ZERO. I look into and make some calls and head to the bank. The Child Support offices have levied (sp?) our account and it is now frozen. I know that DH has arrears, (we used to pay her in cash and then she up a tells the court we didn't pay her anything - anyway...) but we have been on a payment plan and have not missed a payment in 3 years! We have been paying CS and arrears on time and in full for all this time.

DH trying to disengage from SD14

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Submitted by mamacat_30 on Fri, 06/11/2010 - 6:10pm

So the chances of SD14 coming for the weekend are slim, I'm sure SS11 and SD12 will come. Me and DH were talking about her today and he said that's it, he doesn't even want her to come anymore. I know that SD14 saying she doesn't want to come over anymore is killing him inside, and the best way he knows to deal with it is to disengage. It hurts me to see this happening. SD14 has been driving us nuts lately with the lies and failing grades and stealing, but we still want a relationship with her. DH is hurt right now, but doesn't know what to do.

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