I read the question from the stepmom with the mildly autistic son who treated her very poorly. I can relate. I don't know if my stepson is mildly or moderately autistic, all I know is that in his first 10 years of life his issues were not addressed. I know what you mean when you say you feel like what you say doesn't matter because that is exactly what I feel all the time. My stepson doesn't talk but he thinks I'm his personal punching bag. I have changed the direction of my stepson's life by being his "mom".