Hi, I asked you all for some advice handling my MIL, and the consensus was a unanimous: "F*ck" her.

see thread: https://www.steptalk.org/node/226595

Since the talk with DH where she didn't deny that she was waiting for me (wife no. 2) to disappear. She came to my office one day (unannounced) and put a big envelope in my hands, like it was a gift for me, and she was doing some grand gesture. This was money that DH was paying back for an old loan from before my time--it had nothing to do with me. I could not get her to take it back, and she gave me hugs and told me she hadn't seen my BS4 in a "long time" (it had been 2 weeks), and she left.

So I gave DH the cash and he spoke with her about it. He told her that we both felt that he should pay them back the money he owes them. To this she responded: "well, we are YOUR parents" (like I needed to butt out--seriously lady, you give ME the cash and then want me to butt out... that makes no sense).

Yesterday DH made arrangements with FIL for the SKIDS to go spend a day with them next week. She contacted him, furious, because BS4 is not included in the visit. She gave DH a guilt trip, and we had an argument. Yes, another MIL-induced argument.

My stance is this:
1. I'm not going to give MIL the opportunity to badmouth me to my own child.
2. I don't let BS4 spend the day with SS10 without me around since SS10 took off BS4's water wings in the pool last year and almost drowned him (as some of you know, SS10 is not a bad kid, but he's got some serious issues).
3. If you f*ck with me, you don't get my kid! (I know this is childish, but this woman is really hurting me, see other post).
4. She's admitted to wanting me gone, and she's causing fights with DH (this morning I told her that if MIL "wants my house, my husband and my kid... perhaps I should walk away and give her 2 out of 3."

Am I being unreasonable? She hasn't seen BS4 in one month, however she will see him at an upcoming birthday party on the 20th.

And for the record: every year she goes on a 4-5 month vacation to Alaska and she's perfectly fine not seeing BS4...