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The Light at the End of the Tunnel: Remembering BM
I'm the 75-year old BM & SM of 5. I've written about what worked & didn't work to get us to the end of the SP tunnel. But the one thing that consumed most of my headspace was my jealousy & hatred of BM.
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The Light at the End of the Tunnel: What Didn't Work
I'm the veteran BM & SM of 5 who reads the posts & remembers my traumatic steplife. I've shared what worked to get us to the end of the tunnel. Here's what didn't work.
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The Light at the End of the Tunnel: Hard Financial Decisions in Hard Times
I'm the 75-year old BM & SM of 5 who reads the blogs & forums & flashes back. I've been thinking about the young step-parents out there.
This is such a rough financial time for many people. You might be making difficult decisions: should I pay this or that first? What happens if I don't pay this at all? Can i substitute this for that? What will (somebody) think if i do this? Will this have a lasting effect? You'll be making hundreds of these decisions, large & small.
The Light at the End of the Tunnel: Mother's Day
Mother's Day can be an emotional minefield for step-moms. I'm the 75-year old BM & SM of 5 who is thinking back over my steplife as I read the blogs & forums.
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The Light at the End of the Tunnel: What Worked
I'm the 75-year old BM & SM of 5 who suffers flashbacks as I read the blogs & forums. We made it to the end of the tunnel & I wanted to share what worked as we coped with the day-to-day chaos.
1) Counseling, the best money I ever spent. Takeaways: assertiveness, engagement & more one-on-one time with DH. This is contrary to the often-recommended disengagement but in those days, I needed to step up to my family role. As DH & I spent more time together, we became "deeper than dirt" as we shared our kids' issues.
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THE LIGHT FROM THE END OF THE TUNNEL
I am 75 yo SM who has been reading the blogs & forums. I want to tell all the traumatized SPs out there that it CAN sometimes work out & you CAN sometimes get thru all the issues & have happy years with your dear spouse.
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